Comment on Ending a relationship during the dating phase is a positive outcome.
BussyCat@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I strongly disagree with the point the people don’t marry on the first date as a compatibility test
People go out for just casual fun with no intent of ever marrying and sometimes with no intent of ever exceeding a casual relationship
So if the relationship is the “final product” it can still absolutely suck if it’s taken away
squaresinger@lemmy.world 3 days ago
For the point of the argument it doesn’t really matter if the goal is marriage or some other type of long-term relationship.
And if you are going with a low-commitment casual relationship (which is totally fine, of course, no judgement here), then you do that because you don’t exactly expect the relationship to last to the grave. In which case not ending a non-functional relationship purely out of feelings of obligation, commitment or shame should be even less appropriate.
I mean, isn’t the point of low-commitment relationships to have low commitment? If the relationship sours, why feel shame for ending it?
BussyCat@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Because you don’t want it to sour, you are comfortable. If I have a carton of milk in the fridge and it sours so I have to throw it out I am not happy that I avoided drinking sour milk but upset that I no longer have milk and now I need to go to the store to get more or live without
squaresinger@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Tbh, I’d much prefer to throw out a carton of sour milk than to keep it in the fridge for years or even drinking it because I am afraid of feeling like a failure for throwing out the milk.