Seconding this! I have my own matrix server, it can be a bit of a pain to set up, but it works better than 99% of any other alternatives (trust me, I’ve tried almost every one of them)
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UnhingedStopa@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
You could use matrix and host your own instance.
guynamedzero@piefed.zeromedia.vip 1 day ago
Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 1 day ago
I started trying to set it up last week, I can’t seem to figure out why authentik and it will not play. It either tries authentik and gets a 404 or ignores it and doesn’t find the user. (Nginx is also involved). It’s the least user friendly thing I’ve tried to self host so far
Howlinghowler110th@kbin.earth 1 day ago
we've thought about this but the documentation isn't user friendly for self hosting. we're generally worried about undesirable people finding it which would not be good.
JadedBlueEyes@programming.dev 9 hours ago
Continuwuity.org has reasonable documentation, and you can (and should) disable signups or require a token to sign up.
artiman@piefed.social 1 day ago
you can make your instance invite only
deadcade@lemmy.deadca.de 1 day ago
The documentation you were looking at might’ve been the Matrix specification.
There is documentation on how to host a Matrix server, I’d honestly recommend using containers (maybe docker compose) for this one. It can definitely be confusing setting up a service like a Matrix homeserver for the first time.
As for other people finding it, you can (and should) make your homeserver invite-only. It’s also possible to disable federation, which makes the server self-contained. It will not accept incoming connections from other servers, nor make outgoing connections to other servers.
This does mean everyone you want to talk with has to be on your homeserver. There are probably better options available if you want to avoid Matrix’ federation issues, like Spacebar.
derin@lemmy.beru.co 23 hours ago
There is no risk of others finding it if you don’t turn on federation. It becomes a fully private instance. Just set federation to false.