Comment on Is it weird to simultaneously feel love and hatred towards parents?

Rolder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

• Comrade_Spood@quokk.au ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  This has been my experience. Before I got old enough to develop my own political beliefs, my dad barely if ever talked about politics and he was a very supportive and loving father. Then I started developing my political beliefs and coincide tally that was around when Trump was running for his first term and it started going downhill from there. He was still and loving and supportive father, but his politics and mine did not align and that started creating a lot of division between us. Neither of us can handle talking about politics around each other, but it is becoming harder and harder to avoid.

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  • Rolder@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    It was the same for me. It was becoming especially problematic when I still lived with him during the pandemic, but I moved out and it became much more tolerable. I visit once a week and he’s thankfully capable of holding it in for a couple hours

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    • Comrade_Spood@quokk.au ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      I only managed to move out recently. Unfortunately there was a lot of damage done to our relationship prior to me moving out, and its damage I don’t believe he is aware is there. Even if it is, neither of us are eager to confront it. I still visit, and try to do it about bi-weekly (distance being the main factor), but it always feels awkward and I don’t think that will go away until the current state of America improves or we take the effort to fix the mend. Further unfortunately, I worry that he won’t change and that is a huge barrier to mending our relationship.

      Our relationship is in a really difficult spot. If we don’t try and work through it and just keep skirting around things and avoiding the problem things will never improve and it will always be awkward around him. But if we confront things, there is a good likelyhood things will end up worse than they already are

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