Comment on Did it really used to be common for guys to go to a bar every night like in Cheers or The Simpsons?

• lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  The scope of the socialization is extremely limited though. It’s centered around the game and unlikely to grow beyond that into a real relationship. It’s not like you can ask your internet friends who live hundreds of miles away to come help you move a couch or come to a barbecue or whatever. You don’t develop typically connections with your local community.

  Admittedly playing WOW back in the day helped me a lot with getting over the social anxiety issues I have and learn to be a more functional adult. I’m not sure that would have happened had I not met the people I did in that game. But none of those friendships went beyond playing the game.

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  • 0x0@lemmy.zip ⁨15⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    The scope of the socialization is extremely limited though. It’s centered around the game and unlikely to grow beyond that into a real relationship.

    I know quite a few that counter that.
    YMMV.

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    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      I mean I’m open to suggestions but I never had relationships from games transition into anything else. Everyone I’ve met through gaming has always been hundreds of miles away or in other countries so it’s not like we could meet up to do shit on the weekends.

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      • 0x0@lemmy.zip ⁨7⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        You do you. I know a couple from different countries who met playing WoW, they have a son now – it wasn’t mail-ordered.

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  • Nemoder@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    I’ve had online friends I met in games who I’ve remained in contact with for many years well outside of the original game. Some of them I’ve met in real life as well. I’ve also run into many other ‘friend groups’ who hang out in their favorite chat app and jump around between games or other hobbies for whatever fits their mood. It seems common enough to me that it shouldn’t be that rare or difficult for anyone willing to put some effort and trust towards it.

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  • balance8873@lemmy.myserv.one ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    You aren’t wrong but you’re making this sound like a universal good. I don’t particularly want to go bond with the local bbq guy who seems nice enough other than the little blue lives matter bumper sticker on his raised pickup truck. Sure he has truck nuts but it’s human contact.

    The moving a couch example is kinda cringe so Im skipping.

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    • lightnsfw@reddthat.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Those were just examples. There’s thousands of reasons why having friends locally is valuable. Especially if you’re in USA with the way things are going. I’m really not sure what you even think the downsides are… If it’s the drinking aspect, you’re not required to drink at a bar, nobody really cares if you have something non-alcoholic instead.

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• pathief@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

  Sure but the social aspect in games is often pretty toxic.

  I played quite a lot of Dota 2 and while communication and cooperation greatly jmprove your chances of winning, most often then not it was just someone raging hard over minor mistakes.

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  • Nemoder@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Absolutely, just as you can wander into the wrong bar and end up in a fight.

    Competitive games will definitely bring out the worst in some people though, but there’s plenty of co-operative and role-play games that can lead to good lasting friendships.

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  • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

    Don’t know if I would have thought of Dota as a social game tbh. Maybe a more casual MMO?

    But what about keep talking and nobody explodes, overcooked or penis jousting?

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    • hayvan@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Deep Rock Galactic and especially Helldivers 2 gave me the most positive interactions with random strangers despite lack of dedicated social hubs or lobbies.

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      • Korhaka@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

        Yeah coop games are usually pretty good choices

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    • pathief@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago

      Dota is not casual at all, it’s quite competitive. It’s the reason the communication is so toxic.

      Couch co-op games are very nice but in my personal experience friends don’t make a habit of gathering to play them. It’s a infrequent ocasion, online gaming is much much easier. Boardgames are a cooler experience if you’re gonna have people frequently at your place.

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