I’ve been thinking similar things. Maybe online platforms, including Lemmy, can be a bit unhealthy.

In the real world, if you say something a bit embarrassing in front of one person, they’ll probably forget it after a while. Years later, nobody knows you said it. But on Lemmy, if I tell one person my opinion on a topic, that opinion exists on my profile for the rest of time, unless I delete the comment or my profile.