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IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 7 hours ago
Sounds like her parents are trying to force you into a shotgun wedding.
Ultimately, it’s up to you if you want to go into a marriage that is very much going to be unhappy. Personally, I’d just setup child support arrangements and discuss with her what role, if any, I would have in the child’s life.
mrmarlborored@lemmy.world 7 hours ago
IcedRaktajino@startrek.website 7 hours ago
I can’t speak for your situation, but I do know of too many examples of marriages “just because” that made both partners completely miserable for decades. And their disgust at each other definitely was not good for the kid to grow up around.
If she’s someone you could see spending your life with, just not right now, then it’s worth considering. But either way, I would advise against agreeing to a shotgun wedding.
Eq0@literature.cafe 6 hours ago
Just to give a different perspective (while still agreeing with the other commenter): marriage can mean something different to each couple. Could the two of you consider an open marriage? A convenience marriage? A marriage where, practically, you sleep in different rooms? It could (maybe!) allow you to get the parents of your back, and could (maybe!) allow you to both be present for your kid. But rules need to be clear for both of you. How would it look like if one of you wanted to date outside the marriage?
Keep into account the society you live in as well.
someguy3@lemmy.world 6 hours ago
You’re the only one that knows the relationship and 1) if you want it to work 2) if it will work.