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iii@mander.xyz ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

I think you can’t spreadsheet your way through emotions — there isn’t a scoresheet that sorts them into a tidy “Good” column and an equally neat “Bad” column. I don’t think you can banish feelings you dislike and license only the pleasant ones.

I think what’s possible is learning to recognize what you’re feeling, fully experiencing it, and choosing deliberately how to direct that energy. Regulating actions and words. I think you can’t stop feelings from arising.

Life improves when you practice feeling deliberately, however imperfect the process, instead of suppressing emotions until they blow up.

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quacky@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

I think you can’t stop feelings from arising.

ok sure but like an addict ought not to act on their impulse, similar to hate or the continuum of negativity. Like we can have an impulse or emotion, but we oughtn’t entertain it (if we categorically disagree with the ends it brings). To recognize that negativity, especially intense negativity, is a pathway to hate, and hate is categorically undesirable. It’s just like how urge to use drugs leads to a pathway that is categorically undesirable (i.e., addiction).

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quacky@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

there isn’t a scoresheet that sorts them into a tidy “Good” column and an equally neat “Bad” column

There could be. Maybe we can make one. Maybe one was already made.

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- quacky@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  I searched online and i found this neat graph and news article Image oecdwatch.org/the-updated-oecd-guidelines-and-ani…
  
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quacky@lemmy.world ⁨12⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

I don’t think you can banish feelings If you mean to banish as in to remove, then why not remove bad or nonconstructive feelings? If all things hateful is ultimately counterproductive, and hate is a degree of intensity from the emotion of dislike, then moderating that level of dislike ought to be good, just logically. Removing (banishing) hateful feelings, or being anti-hate, seems both popular and logical.

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- Sonotsugipaa@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
  They said “I don’t think you can banish feelings”, you even quoted that, and you consequently suggest banishing feelings?
  
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  - quacky@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    Conveniently, there’s a Psychology Today article on stoicism and banishing of emotions. I am surprised how easy cheap confirmation was to find. Sharing for credibility-factor, even though I think it’s a bit irrational/superficial. psychologytoday.com/…/how-to-banish-negative-emot…
    
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  - quacky@lemmy.world ⁨8⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    yes, this is a simple difference of opinion. I’m not sure what the hiccup is.
    
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    Sonotsugipaa@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago
    - “I can’t afford to buy food, I’m hungry” - “Have you tried buying food?”
    
    See the (non-philosophical) problem?
    
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