Personally I never really had the “2 same gender ppl together weird” thingy, but ironically now that I’ve come out, I notice it more in my mind that I have those feels. And that annoys me as I want to not have that feel. So I try to ‘CBT’ myself by subtly smiling at those couples too, trying to make sure they feel safe and at ease too.

I think it comes from a perception of envy, that I’m projecting it onto others: why them but not me? I try to combat it too by realising that it’s not ‘not me’; I need to go out and look for it, to have it too.

It’s a whole journey of self exploration and realisation. If there’s any good place to ask, it’s on Lemmy, and since it’s in good faith (realising that homo- and transphobia is in fact, indeed bad), it’s especially a good way to learn how to deal with your feels. Best to have a psychologist you personally know and trust, though.