Comment on Did I used to be homophobic? Am I?
TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
tbh I used to be the opposite of you. 2 men together was just kinda weird. not in a “that’s wrong you’re going to hell!!! 😡😡” kinda way, moreso just something in my brain thought it was kinda off-putting about it. I was raised by a really homophobic mom and grandparents as well as toxic discords that didn’t properly portray what being gay is like, that 100% had something to do with it.
however, I found women snuggling together so cute and wholesome, like the best thing in the world. Like wholeheartedly cannot understand how anybody would be against it. I felt like really inferior as if never be half of worth to have an experience of anything like that.
Over time as I got more experience with gay men my view kinda shifted and I think it’s really wholesome and I am really happy that people can be with who they want to be and it’s really sweet.
however… I am now a woman… and attracted to women… so that explains that
also my dad is gay and was his whole life.
birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 days ago
Personally I never really had the “2 same gender ppl together weird” thingy, but ironically now that I’ve come out, I notice it more in my mind that I have those feels. And that annoys me as I want to not have that feel. So I try to ‘CBT’ myself by subtly smiling at those couples too, trying to make sure they feel safe and at ease too.
I think it comes from a perception of envy, that I’m projecting it onto others: why them but not me? I try to combat it too by realising that it’s not ‘not me’; I need to go out and look for it, to have it too.
It’s a whole journey of self exploration and realisation. If there’s any good place to ask, it’s on Lemmy, and since it’s in good faith (realising that homo- and transphobia is in fact, indeed bad), it’s especially a good way to learn how to deal with your feels. Best to have a psychologist you personally know and trust, though.