Comment on As a man, the easiest way to get someone to care about my feelings would be to transition to female.

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• Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  That’s not really enough.

  Also, such a small part of men are able to hug other men that if everybody needed to have those few as their friends, they’d very quickly run out of friendship capacity.

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  • Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    It takes two to hug. If everyone needs a hug why can’t they hug each other?

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    • Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      Most have no idea they need a hug.

      They don’t want to because it would be gay. They want to be real men. And they feel sad and lonely and lost. If someone somehow got them to understand that all we men really need to do in order to be actually happy is to hug each other, this world would stop being a nightmare for us all.

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  • givesomefucks@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

    You’re acting like it’s a physical impossibility…

    I played sports thru college and then joined the military, me and my friends from that period hug when we see each other.

    Nothing weird about it.

    There are men who are too insecure to hug other men, which is what you replied to:

    Sounds like you need better friends.

    Men secure in their own masculinity don’t have any problems hugging other men.

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    • Tuuktuuk@sopuli.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

      You’re acting like it’s a physical impossibility…

      Why would it be a physical impossibility? Doesn’t seem to be for me. Or have I just thought what I do is hugging while in reality it’s not? Please elaborate.

      Men secure in their own masculinity don’t have any problems hugging other men. And insecure men likely have toxic traits that make them bad friends.

      Yes. How many men are secure in their masculinity? 5%? If the remaining 95 % can only have those 5 % as their friends, how do they find sufficient time for all that friendship?

      For most men non-toxic men are not available for friendships. And especially: I don’t want to be friends with a toxic asshole, regardless of how much he moght (unbeknownst to himself…) need my friendship.

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      • givesomefucks@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

        Why would it be a physical impossibility? Doesn’t seem to be for me

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        For most men non-toxic men are not available for friendships

        You’re openly contradicting yourself over and over and just insisting the majority of men are shit

        Have fun with that I guess

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• FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago

  I wish it were that simple, and not a whole-ass culture that’s made it okay to be casually cruel to men.

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