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Soup@lemmy.world 3 days agoThe cure is not worse than the poison. And if you admit that it happens, and you also say we should call them misogynist if they’re doing it, then calling someone out for “mansplaining” is exactly that except for some reason you don’t like it.
It’s giving “I’m fine with the protests I just don’t think they should block traffic or otherwise get in my way.”
theneverfox@pawb.social 2 days ago
Yeah well disputing traffic does something. It makes people feel the breakdown of society in a visceral way
The concept of mansplaining is discharitable. It is bad to prime people to spot it, because false positives are extremely damaging to interpersonal relations.
Don’t give it a name, just call it what it is: talking to a sexist asshole. There’s no confusion there… It doesn’t matter if they’re being patronizing or making rude comments, the Venn diagram is a circle.
You’re taking to a bigot, or you’re not. And when you’re not, you’re probably talking to someone neurodivergent, who is genuinely trying to communicate in good faith
Soup@lemmy.world 2 days ago
If you’ve already agreed that the person is sexist then people will just say that anyone doing it is sexist and you’ll complain that people are primed to say it and “false positives…” and all that.
It sounds like you’ve felt personally hurt by this in the past less than there’s a good argument here.
theneverfox@pawb.social 1 day ago
And you’re projecting even more things on me now. You’re not speaking to me as an equal. You’re not trying to come to common understanding.
You’re just trying to fight the strawman you carried into this conversation
Which is my whole point. What you’re doing, right now, is what I think this word leads to.
Soup@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Mansplaining is a type of dickishness. It is not a wholesale replacement, just a version thereof. You are outright refusing to allow for the refinement of an idea and I do not know why aside from somehow this specific level of detail is the line which you have decided is “dangerous”. Hell, you don’t even seem to be against the idea that there is a specifically male-on-female sexist dickishness but rather just hate that there is a term for it that people can use to more effectively communicate the idea.
You don’t have a stance I could even make a strawman up for, you just hate that something has a name.