I am coming to grips with this myself. Not that I’m exactly in your shoes or anything, but I’ve kind of ignored ADD and realized that I’m probably on the spectrum as well.

…It’s already wrecked my life.

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I don’t have great advice. But the two things I might suggest, that I’m trying to work on myself, are:

• Be mindful. Be conscious of your own needs and tendencies, and catch/steer yourself before they become a problem. Simply knowing you are on the neurodivergence spectrum is huge.

• Be non combative. It’s easy to get frustrated with how shit and incompatible things are, and so on, but I’m finding a more ‘relaxed’ attitude is helping me. Don’t let people get under your skin: who cares what they think, beyond the bare minimum they require from you? Focus attention on people (and things) you like, instead.