On the first point, I can’t speak to the overall volume, but I can definitely say that people willfully misinterpreting me was a pretty common occurrence over on Reddit and definitely pushed me to comment less over time, just for the sake of my mental health. I don’t think I’ve been on Lemmy long enough to make a meaningful comparison though.

To add to your second point, Lemmy definitely feels very stale very quickly. Reddit, for all its faults, has a much larger user base with thousands of active communities. On Lemmy, even browsing the everything feed, I only see maybe a couple dozen new and interesting posts a day, and it only takes about 10 minutes of scrolling before I’m looking at stuff from days or weeks ago. Most communities I’ve tried to explore have one, maybe two posters. Subbing to a community often feels like subbing to one person and hoping it becomes a real community in the future.

I dunno if any of that will push me back to Reddit. If Lemmy doesn’t really fit me… I’ll probably just give up this last little bit of social media and just browse Imgur for memes when I want.