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Mouette@jlai.lu ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

I’d tell my dad to f off and mind his own business only to make it clear that he has no right to infere in my love life, especially to force thing on me.

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Melobol@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
Depends on how much complaining the OP does. If he is always moping about girls then he has no right to tell the parents to butt out. Because he is burdening them with negativity - so they have the right to try make things better.
If he mentioned it once in six months in passing, now that’s a different matter.

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- Fondots@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  Yeah, how much OP actually complains about this is kind of a big factor here.
  
  I run up against something similar with a few of my friends. They spend a lot of time complaining that they’re bored and lonely, but no matter how many invites you throw their way, they never seem to make any effort to follow through with any plans. They say they’re interested, but they never let you know when they’re available, or they don’t show up, or they come up with flimsy excuses, etc.
  
  And there are times I really wish I could force some of them to just show up to something so they’d stop complaining.
  
  Having a social life is hard, I get it, we all only have so much time, energy, money, etc. shit comes up, we have other obligations, we all like to just veg out on the couch sometimes
  
  But if you’re not willing to put forth even a little effort to follow through on plans, rearrange some things, inconvenience yourself a little, at some point you kind of lose the right to complain.
  
  And it’s not that you’re not allowed to complain about it once in a while. But at some point, it’s just not fair to the people you’re complaining to if you’re not actually making an effort to do something about it.
  
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- Mouette@jlai.lu ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago
  If the son has issue i’d say the good parenting would be to try to fix the son, not pass the burden to a random girl . Let’s say OP is an incel constantly rambling about how feminism has ruined girl which prevent him from dating, i’d try to work on deconnecting him from internet and have social relation rather than find a girl that suit him.
  
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