tokeholdlaunch@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Bro. The people in this thread are being way too nice about this. I know several autistic people who do not have these problems because they understand that they live in a world where it is expected that you are able to speak politely and professionally with other people.
I’m genuinely shocked that you made it through nursing school with this attitude. This isn’t introversion, you are choosing to be rude to your coworkers, and you have experienced consequences for those actions. You said somewhere that talking to the receptionist for 5 minutes was an unbearable chore. It’s like you failed to understand the most basic social graces of any type of work (be nice to the front desk lady). You also said you’ve had these same problems at other jobs, and when other commenters have suggested that you try to improve your social skills, you write them off and say something to the effect of, “that’s not my job. I’m not a manager.” It is absolutely part your job to be an asset to the team, and being a dick is almost worse than being incompetent.
It sounds like your coworkers tried to include you in their conversation, and you just stared at them for a few seconds and looked away without saying anything. That is the height of rudeness. It’s dismissive, it says “you don’t matter to me”. It says “you are beneath me”. Your characterization of workplace conversation as “theatrics” is very telling. When Suzy from down the hall tries to show you a picture of her dog or tell you about her kids, that is her trying to relate to you and include you in the workplace dynamic. You don’t have to be interested. You just have to be nice about it and say “aww how cute”. It’s literally so simple, and your insistence that it is even possible to find a work situation where you wouldn’t need to engage in this kind of talk is borderline delusional.
You should try to get some therapy and maybe read some self help books about how to connect with other people. You made multiple carerr-limiting statements in your OP and subsequent comments, and this is your side of the story that you are able to tell however you want. You chose to present yourself this way in a Lemmy post, so it’s not hard to assume that you’re like this in real life.
dennis5wheel@programming.dev 1 day ago
it is when you simply can say hi and move on. Do you engage in useless conversations for 5 minutes when every coworker you find till yo go to your desk? I find it surprising you haven’t been fired yet.
tokeholdlaunch@lemmy.world 1 day ago
I would be willing to bet money that you mouthed off to a physician or a senior nurse like that, and that’s what actually got you fired. You are so incredibly lucky to have a union that was willing to stand up for you the way they did.
Seeing opportunities to learn about other people and foster relationships as useless is just dickish. It’s not cool, it’s not cute, and no one likes that kind of behavior. I’m very heavily introverted, have social anxiety, depression, and ADHD; and it takes me a long time to warm up to other people. I have never once been fired or even reprimanded for anything at work, much less the way I speak to people, because I approach conversations with a warm tone and a willingness to engage with and learn about the other person. You need some help man. Please take this opportunity to engage in some self-improvement because you are setting yourself up to be miserable for the rest of your life.