ramsgrl909@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
The best advice I learned from my manager was 2 parts.
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Try and understand their point of view, you may need to adjust your actions if their point of view is seeing you as not helpful/annoying (looking back i was being very obnoxious, sending too many emails)
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Have a work self and a non work self. I was very shy and that was not looked highly on at my job so I tried my best little by little to open up more
These really helped me in my career.
dennis5wheel@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
are you a manager?
Fidgetting@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Not the person you’re replying to but:
Yes, managing your relationship with your coworkers will be helpful at all stages of your career. You’re not managing them, you’re managing your relationship with them. It helps you listen, ask simple questions about who they are and listen. You don’t have to care, you only have to share a little. You’re not building a friendship unless you want to. You’re cultivating a positive relationship so that they know they can depend on you when they need it.
Yes, exhausting. It’s called masking and everybody whether they are neuro divergent or not does it. Some people find it trivial, some find it nearly impossible. My wife can tell the difference between my work voice and my regular voice because at work I’m masking. I’ve been working on bringing the two closer together because I’ve found it is beneficial to my career to be more myself.
nemo@piefed.social 2 weeks ago
I personally find it very calming. Personal me doesn't need to worry about interactions that work me had. Similarly, work me doesn't worry about all the stuff in my personal life, allowing me to focus on work.