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Leather@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I got a vasectomy at 23, a little over 2 decades ago. I heard the same arguments, but I knew since I was a child that I had zero interest in being a parent.
I think it’s interesting all the folks talking about neurological development, or alluding to wisdom with age. Because we’re on Lemmy, and not somebootlicker MAGA platform, I bet not a single one of those folks would question a 22 year old who said they were gay. Not one damn person would tell you to wait 5 years, or tell you you’re too young, bank your sperm, or you might change with age, or you might meet the right person and become straight for them.
My advice is to be thoughtful, be curious, and ultimately to trust yourself.
Pelicanen@sopuli.xyz 3 days ago
Difference being that unlike sexual orientation, desire to have children is something that can be affected quite a lot by just situational circumstances. I’m glad to hear that it worked out well for you, but there are plenty of people who have either wanted or not wanted children when young who have ended up changing their minds, to my knowledge there’s never been an instance of anyone changing their sexual orientation.
Properly used condoms are incredibly effective at preventing pregnancies and have the additional advantage of reducing the spread or STDs, there’s no need to take an irreversible decision quite yet.
Leather@lemmy.world 3 days ago
Sexual orientation tends to be relatively stable over the life span. Why couldn’t we consider parenting a part of ones orientation? link.springer.com/article/…/s11930-019-00195-x