I definitely have friends like this. I have some family like this. We are good no matter how much time between communications.

I also have some family that put zero effort in and maybe they’d show up if I needed them. But given that after one text, they haven’t checked in at all after my Dad died unexpectedly 7 months ago…

They still have each other and both parents. I’m not going to be the one comforting them.

So I’m not actually sure they’d show up even if I asked.

Luckily, I have people who have checked in on me without me having to reach out first.