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JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

If I wasn’t participating in good faith I would’ve just assumed you were saying something transphobic from the start, but I gave you the benefit of the doubt. Then I said you sounded like you meant the positive (not the negative) of the two things I thought you meant and you said you didn’t mean that. So… I’m not sure how you think I’m not participating in good faith when I did all that. Even now I’m not writing you off as a monster, I’m willing to hear what you have to say. I’m waiting for you to tell me what you meant, but you’re just being vague and refusing.

I don’t know what’s more good faith than giving you two benefits of the doubt and willing to give a third if you’d just explain.

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outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

said didn’t mean that

Citation from the text in question?

if you’d just explain

Read what i wrote. Or my explanation of it. I feel like i was as thorough as i could be without being condescending.

good faith and

Shame i didn’t write anything after the clause

entire thread of howling misogynist shit heads glad a bunch of women got doxxed

I’m just about done with this fucking place and im done going out of my way to explain myself to people who arent making any effort to understand here.

benefit of the doubt

Think of me what you will. Hell, accuse me of being the spawn of robert galbraith and adolf hitler. I have very few fucks to give.

done

Damn. Seems i said that too early. But i feel like I’m done now.

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- JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
  
  Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours
  
  I feel I’ve communicated well. You keep not explaining what you meant. I want to know. But you’re refusing to tell me.
  
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  - outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    Scroll up.
    
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    JackbyDev@programming.dev ⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago
    This was your explanation.
    
    Well im talking about external interpretation of ones identity rather than one’s intended expression, so you figure it out. Or don’t.
    
    I’m good faith, I assumed the best by saying this.
    
    I’d say that’s supportive of femme leaning enbies rather than transphobic towards trans women.
    
    Rather than agree with me, you said this and refused to elaborate, going so far as to tell me to interpret as I like. When I only have two possible interpretations, one positive and one negative, I don’t know what else you’d want me take away other than the negative.
    
    There are other things it could be. Interperet as you like.
    
    So I clarified, in good faith, it you meant the negative thing.
    
    Wait, so you are being transphobic?
    
    You were vague and refused to give any explanation. I thought it might be two things. When I asked if it was one of them, your response seems to heavily imply it wasn’t that one, but refuse to give whatever third thing it might be.
    
    That was one of the things you proposed. Im suggesting there are other potential meanings, that you did not propose. i will not be explaining what i do mean any farther than i have
    
    So… What is it? Because you’re saying that I am “not making an effort to understand” when I am in fact bending over backwards to give you benefit of the doubt and understand what you mean. You say communication has two sides and you’re done trying to uphold mine when I am desperately seeking clarification on what you said but you just refuse to provide it.
    
    I’m just about done with this fucking place and im done going out of my way to explain myself to people who arent making any effort to understand. Communication has two sides, i cannot hold up yours
    
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