Comment on A real mans man is married to a real man
forrgott@lemmy.sdf.org 4 days agoIt is very disturbing when a man is obsessed with shaping themselves to fit some gross vision of manliness rather than just finding their own way in life. Coming from a dude, btw.
Like, what the fuck are you afraid of? Respecting other people? I mean, seriously, nothing projects weakness more than letting some vague social concept define you, rather than choosing that for yourself.
Hell, trans women have FAR more strength than those assholes. Hell, anybody who openly identifies as LGBTQ+, really.
And so many of them just need to get over the fact that they like to bottom. Cause what the fuck is wrong with that, anyway?? Such a disgusting and desperate need to define a woman as less than a man, I suppose.
DeceasedPassenger@lemmy.world 4 days ago
The most masculine thing possible is to give zero fucks about anyone else’s definition of masculinity. You speak the truth. I’ve been watching some older cartoons from the 50s, and it’s been a bit strange honestly. Because a lot of that material has a much healthier depiction of ‘being a man’. There was a lot of emphasis on treating others with respect and carrying yourself with dignity. Obviously, a significant amount of behavior at the time didn’t actually line up with most of those ideals. But somewhere along the path, empathy was divorced from manliness, and that’s the root cause of the problem imo.
Classism applied to tops/bottoms has been around since the greeks, it seems hard for society to escape that as a whole.