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sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

This is a huge no from me. My SO doesn’t need my location, and sharing it has a lot of potential downsides, like:

phone manufacturer selling it to advertisers
gov’t getting it and I accidentally trust trigger some alarm
data getting exposed in a breach
apps without location access getting it through some means

There’s a lot of potential downside and the upside is… my SO knows when I’m almost home?

Yeah, no. Maybe I’ll share if I’m doing something risky like hiking alone, but that’s never staying on constantly.

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coolmojo@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
Call me old school but I just text my SO when I am almost home.

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- sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  My route has pretty much no stoplights, so there’s not really an opportunity to text. But I send a text when I leave and if I’m delayed (i.e. I’ll have an opportunity to text).
  
  It works well.
  
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semperverus@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
I don’t agree with the practice but I do see the point - it reduces anxiety and gives your partner a sense that you’re okay for relationships where trust is strong. For toxic relationships this should absolutely not be a thing.

As far as governments or companies selling the data… You can use some self-hosted services on a de-googled GrapheneOS or LineageOS install and use sattelite location only. Then, pipe that to a self hosted solution that doesn’t sell your data like homeassistant or whatever.

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- sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
  Idk, I think it would increase anxiety for my SO, and we have a lot of trust. For example, if I take a coworker home, go out to lunch, etc w/o telling my SO, and they see that deviation in my routine, they could start doubting that trust. But if they just don’t see it, they just rely on what we tell each other, and if it’s not important, it doesn’t need to be communicated and can’t create that anxiety.
  
  At least that’s my take. My SO is really trusting, but also quite anxious because of nonsense they read on SM and whatnot, so a deviation can create a lot of unnecessary concern.
  
  But yeah, I wouldn’t be completely opposed to a self-hosted solution here. I use GrapheneOS, and if the UX isn’t too terrible (i.e. easy to toggle off and on), it could be really useful for something like going hiking alone or whatever.
  
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  - douglasg14b@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    
    if I take a coworker home, go out to lunch, etc w/o telling my SO, and they see that deviation in my routine, they could start doubting that trust
    
    This means there are still insecurities in the relationship that can bubble up.
    
    You do not trust your spouse to trust you and not misinterpret your intentions.
    
    Paradoxally You can defeat some of this insecurity by being transparent and welcoming misinterpretation if you believe you both have full trust in each other.
    
    As a high anxiety person myself, this works to defeat the anxiety which is often feared of the unknown. By proving that deviations to your routine are not something they should feel anxious about, then that anxiety can melt away.
    
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    sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works ⁨3⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago
    It honestly hasn’t been a big problem, but my SO for some reason invents a bunch of unlikely stuff they have to consciously ignore.
    
    Do whatever works though.
    
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