Comment on Are you using Lemmy / others to create noise in your life and to replace talking to people irl?
chosensilence@pawb.social 3 weeks ago…huh? i don’t know what that means.
Comment on Are you using Lemmy / others to create noise in your life and to replace talking to people irl?
chosensilence@pawb.social 3 weeks ago…huh? i don’t know what that means.
testfactor@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
He’s just saying that using Lemmy as a cope for not having IRL friends is healthy.
But, to your point, making friends is easier than you think. Join groups. They’re everywhere. I literally went to a “boardgame play testing” event today and met a lot of cool people.
Things like that are everywhere. You just got a look for them.
chosensilence@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
oh, uh, sure? that’s an odd thing to reply with when i never implied only having friends on Lemmy or online was healthy… so… alright. i do have friends in person, if we’re going to talk about it. i just still find it rather difficult to make new connections.
testfactor@lemmy.world 3 weeks ago
Fair. The OP you were responding to was about how people cope with loneliness IRL with pseudo-real online interactions, and you responded with how it’s difficult to find relationships in person.
I agree it’s not necessarily related, but I the guy above was wildly afeild taking your statement as an excuse for why finding relational fulfillment online is an acceptable cope. It was kind of the topic at hand.
But, aside from that, I think making new connections is really just about going out there and doing it. I’m 33 and constantly meet new people, so it’s definitely achievable in your 30’s. Just go to things. Open up Eventbrite or whatever and find something going on that looks like fun, and then just go. There’s a whole world of opportunities out there to meet new people.
chosensilence@pawb.social 3 weeks ago
look lol, i know. it seems that simple. i have significant mental health issues that complicate things. i wish i could just go. i also don’t value the same people you may do, so finding people i truly get along with is not easy for me.