Comment on Men are opening up about mental health to AI instead of humans
a_wild_mimic_appears@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks agoMen’s inability to open up is a trained behavior, and is reinforced the most by the group doing the most child care: women. Everytime a boy that cries gets told to “man up” that stereotype is repeated to them. This produces an echo that reverbs through most of society, and especially children, who then mock peers that express emotions.
Women are training their own oppressors. There is enough blame around for all genders.
Doom@ttrpg.network 3 weeks ago
No that’s ridiculous and hilarious to say. I’d agree there is enough to blame everyone but you’re not, you’re blaming women.
I’ve never been told to man up by a woman, only men. Ridiculous to say that.
a_wild_mimic_appears@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
Is it really that ridiculous? Biologically seen, men’s properties are mostly due to genetic selection by women over thousands of years, if they are conscious about it or not. Men that are more attractive to women are preferred partners, and the selection pressure is mostly on men, since women have a much higher biological cost in pregnancy. That is pretty proven science, and this pressure is also found in culture: men have the attributes that women want them to have to give them an advantage.
It would only take 2-3 generations of women AND men doing child care to fix those issues by reinforcing openness and acceptance, but that takes education, esp in the human sciences, and education for the masses in the US has been dismantled long ago even before the current razing.
Doom@ttrpg.network 3 weeks ago
Yes that is ridiculous because the intent is to lay responsibility at women’s feet, again. Like always.
This stuff about how women see men or whatever weird breeding shit you’re rambling about is irrelevant you’re just trying to argue women have a choice in some weird way to make the men they want and “choose” not to. That’s so silly.
The simple fact is men are allowed to not take part in their kid’s lives and having one parent do the job isn’t gonna work regardless if they are male or female. As you suggested that is a comment on our social structure which i agree with but again, not what is being said in this thread it’s very clear they are blaming women directly and entirely.
Now again there’s dozens of factors at play here but the bottom line is men are responsible. They hold power in society, they are allowed to disregard children and they are the ones bullying boys into being the way they are. Do women have a role in that? Sure. Is it their responsibility or fault? No that’s silly as fuck especially cause most couldn’t have jobs, couldn’t vote and still can’t do either across the globe.
Bottom line is men are failing men and the first step to a solution is empathy especially towards women which this thread lacks hard. Women are literally the ones leading the charge in reinforcing openness and education, don’t believe me? go to your local elementary school and check out how the teachers speak to kids. Some will be men most will be women and they’re impressively kind and open and teaching a variety of skills to help kids be better people. Men as a whole are not doing that, in fact most men in power are actively trying not to let that happen. They call it sissyfication.
a_wild_mimic_appears@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 weeks ago
You know what i see? Men being afraid of going alone with their kid to the park, because the mom’s there believe they are a sexual predator just by gender. Men not appliying for kindergarden or school jobs because of a tendency of mothers to see every man in childcare as a pedophile. Men getting called the cops onto them in the parking lot when going to their car after shopping.
And it’s the same with violence against women - every man is automatically seen as a brutalizer, or someone who would daterape.
As long as those prejudices exist - and they are mainly female prejudices! - men will not open up. When you are seen as a threat even if you aren’t one (see the man and the bear in the woods), there is no way they will become empathic, because innocently playing with your child in the park could have lifelong consequences for you.