Whether to forgive a cheating partner is a divisive issue. Some people say it’s something they could never move past, others just don’t think it’s a big deal.

I don’t think it’s necessarily men or women - its both. Probably more men commented on your boyfriend’s post because he’s a man.

I can imagine it would be a pretty awful feeling to be in your position - you’ve acknowledged that you messed up, you’ve worked through it with your partner, and now all these people casting judgement on you without understanding the circumstances.

There’s a lot of different aspects to this. The web is full of “drama llamas”. My guilty pleasure is reading /r/aitah posts, even though I know they’re fake it’s still really engaging and reading everyone’s comments is interesting. People say things online that they would just never say to your face. So comments are way more hurtful.

My advice has two parts:

ask your boyfriend to delete the post because the people commenting don’t really know you or the situation and it’s very hurtful

Secondly think through what you would tell a good friend who had been through something like this, it’s probably something like "yeah you did mess up, but everyone does sooner or later, you’ve learned a lot and you’ve worked through it, " et cetera.