You said, verbatim:

Childcare should ideally be 30% men and 70% women

and then went on to justify it with

because women are natual caretakers and excell at emotional and social tasks.

implying that more men would mean worse results “because women are so much better at it”: If the ideal is 70:30 then everything else is worse, no? And you were also being very essentialist, saying that “women provide one thing, men another”.

The trouble with childcare in Germany wasn’t absence of men as such – it was absence of male insight into childcare. Doing things in way that make a lot of sense but women aren’t as prone to do instinctively, but are very capable of doing. As long as there’s a baseline level of diversity such that both approaches are present, things are just fine. There’s no ideal ratio, there’s a wide span of equally good ratios that ensure that everything is covered.

And btw you don’t teach emotional resilience by being authoritarian. You teach it by being there, hold watch, while the kid figures out how to control their emotions, maybe some gently encouraging words. Shouting at them might shock them into silence but it’s not going to teach them anything about actual emotional regulation. The very presence of the word “authority”, on top of that “strict authority”, in what you say betrays your ignorance about childcare. If you have kids I feel sorry for them.