Thank you for your advice and your kindness :) i would love to go to therapy, but sadly all the money i make with work goes toward future rent for university and expenses. Whenever ill have some money be assured that therapy is the first thing i will spend it on haha. About your second point i think you’re right, away from the eyes away from the heart (dont know if its used in english). As i said i unistalled instagram and the fact that she lives away helped about the no contact. The spare occasione, as i said three if i remember correctly, were for graduation parties of good friends i had to attend, so i had to swallow the pill. Om august she’s gonna go abroad for a year with the uni so i guess that will help haha. Thank you again for taking time to read and respond, have a good day :)
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foggy@lemmy.world 5 days ago
Man the difference between 23 and 33 and giving a shit is crazy.
I had my heart broken badly when I was 23 and honestly, it fucked up a good bit of my 20s.even some of my 30s.
My advice first will be therapy. Breakups hurt losing friends hurts. Your gonna feel the pain of the collapse of the ability to dream about your shared future a lot. You need to start dreaming about a new different future.
This mext piece of advice might sound impossible, but you need to go no contact with her for a good 6 months while you process this. That muscle in your brain trained to daydream about your future is gonna be a bitch, and hanging out and acting like friends is gonna make that take forever. Go no contact. You can be friends again later, but not now.
You got this.
Rich_Benzina@feddit.it 5 days ago
sanguinepar@lemmy.world 5 days ago
You’ve had some good advice on here I think, so I’ll not add much other than to say I’m really sorry you’re hurting, and I hope some time and distance away from her (not in a hostile way, just for your own wellbeing) helps you feel better.
Also, the therapy thing - when possible, yeah, talking shit out can really help. If money is an issue, there may still be some free local group counselling sessions you can find. I’ve done that, and I found that in addition to expressing my feeling, the process of listening to and comforting others actually made me feel better too.
away from the eyes away from the heart (dont know if its used in english)
Re that phrase, in English a common way of expressing much the same idea would be “Out of sight, out of mind”
Good luck dude, it gets easier [hug] 👍
Rich_Benzina@feddit.it 5 days ago
Thank you for the support and the advices, people were very kind and helpful :) i’ll make sure to search for somebody to listen to my long-ass venting lol Wish you a good day and reciprocate the hug :)
sanguinepar@lemmy.world 5 days ago
No worries - take it easy mate 👍
thermal_shock@lemmy.world 5 days ago
+1.
No contact 100% will help a lot.