people (with a much different experience than you) tell you that you’re hurting them. you say they’re just lying?
Comment on lemm.ee is shutting down at the end of this month
MajesticElevator@lemmy.zip 3 weeks agoSure. So questionning about sports and potentially being wrong makes me transphobic?
That’s exactly my point. If you don’t know, you’re transphobic. If we don’t agree with you, we’re transphobic. If you’re wrong because you made a mistake, then it’s deliberate and you’re transphobic.
I know your kind very well. I used to be one.
The good old argument from authority, I see. We’re not the same, and you don’t know me better than myself. Thanks.
jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
MajesticElevator@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
Things doesn’t always go your way and people should accept that.
If it hurts them to discuss these kind of topics, then don’t, but don’t go and call people transphobic for that because it’s just not. Maybe they should just not get hurt or offended that easily.
If you get hurt because someone doesn’t have the same opinion as you while still being respectful, that’s sad.
jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
Maybe they should just not get hurt or offended that easily.
Let me kick your nuts and tell you the exact same thing. Just ignore the pain, bro
Mniot@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
Can’t even ignore the pain of getting a post deleted…
Vanilla_PuddinFudge@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
If it’s any consolation, I’m with you on blahaj. It’s like a sea of people who can’t wait for someone to point a finger at. Your post was harmless, questioning, and didn’t seem hate-filled at all. I usually avoid blahaj users, I never know when even a harmless phrase will be enough to cause one of them to have a nervous breakdown.
will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
You don’t get the point of the instance. That sports thing is deliberately pushed by the alt right because it gets people riled up, it was literally a non issue until they started bringing it up (and lying about it, making it seem like a bigger issue than it really is). There are not a lot of trans women and we largely don’t compete at a professional level. We have to keep hearing this tired old debate over and over, and so on blåhaj, which is supposed to be a safe space, we simply ban all alt right rhetoric targeting us rather than engage in it.
Do you know how often someone shows up and randomly brings up some unrelated alt right talking point? In an unrelated post? Yeah this is not us being sensitive, this is other people not understanding what it means to be a minority being specifically targeted to create engagement. We can’t all expend all of our energy all of the time to rebuke every single argument. That effort would legitimately be inhuman
Vanilla_PuddinFudge@infosec.pub 3 weeks ago
Lemmy is a federated site, and you have to accept that blahaj is a public instance, as do the rest of the users. If you guys can’t have a conversation without flipping your shit, or can’t handle your own business, then lock the door.
will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 weeks ago
You ever been on an instance that doesn’t have their own rules?
MajesticElevator@lemmy.zip 3 weeks ago
❤️ feels good to hear from time to time. I’m just shocked at how much people are fine with that.
It’s pretty similar to hexbear and lemmygrad in a way. You learn to avoid and not trigger them because it always end in a bloodbath even though you never intended it to
I believe what infuriates me the most is that your comments just end up being deleted instead of just downvoted. It always goes in the same way, as if there’s only one voice.
Mniot@programming.dev 3 weeks ago
But delete-instead-of-downvote is how you drive out the trolls. If you give shitty people a platform labeled “I think this person is wrong” then you’ve still given them a platform.
jbk@discuss.tchncs.de 3 weeks ago
If you don’t understand the actions, it’s probably because you’re not trans. Try to be aware of that. Would a few comments seriously deteriorate your mental health? No, but transphobia might end up doing that on trans folks, that’s why it’s completely removed.
dipshit@lemm.ee 3 weeks ago
This is it. It’s really easy for cis people to talk about trans issues like they are nothing because they don’t experience them. I should know. I used to be like that before I knew I was a trans girl, and then I eventually came to realize why it hurt so much when my egg broke and I came to be in that position.