Not sure how old you are but I eventually got over that. For me being a lot more socially active and hanging out with a bigger group of people helped to get away from that.
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lian_drake@lemmy.world 4 days ago
I recently had my experience with a friend I really liked since we first met a couple of years back. Let’s say it didn’t go well and I discovered I have BPD. I already got a no for an answer and tried to move on, but it’s almost impossible. The last time I was this attached to someone, I stayed like that for around 8 years until I met her. Not sure it will be the same this time, but I’m afraid someone else will come and become that person again and repeat the cycle… It’s damn horrible.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 days ago
- lian_drake@lemmy.world 3 days ago
22yo here. I am very socially active, but that doesn’t change anything. Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t really something you can get over with by being more sociable, as a matter of fact it sometimes makes it worse, because it makes you feel like you’re in a limbo, not really sure about who or what you are or if you really matter to any of those people. With time I found out that hanging with fewer but way more close friends works better for me. Now regarding emotional attachment to someone (often called FP, Favorite Person), that is very hard to control and often just happens. It is pretty fucked up, but at least I’m somewhat getting used to it and slowly starting to understand it.
lightnsfw@reddthat.com 3 days ago
I apologize, my reply was not clear. I didn’t mean being more socially active helped with bpd or that it was something that could be “gotten over”.
I was referring to the “favorite person” aspect. Having a wider social circle helped me to spread my attention around and not get too fixated on any one person.
MrOtingocni@lemmy.world 3 days ago
I was just about to respond to the post with:
“Not true, a person who would normally be out of your league but actually has BPD could swoop down on you and ruin your life at any moment”
It’s still funny, but I will pad my attempt at dark humor with a congratulations to you. The sooner a diagnosis is made, the right meds sorted out, and a solid therapy plan set, the sooner you will find relief from the cyclone of emotions and be able to live your life to the fullest.
It’s a tough hand to be dealt but not an impossible one to get squared away and maintained. You undoubtedly have a lot to offer to the world, as well as a special someone, so just keep putting one right step in front of the other and it’ll all work out.