Comment on Are your parents "supposed" to be your role models?
Inaminate_Carbon_Rod@lemmy.world 14 hours agoI’m a father of 5 and it’s always in the front of my mind.
Modelling good behaviour is the most effective parenting method.
If they see you being a hypocrite and acting like an angry fool while trying to force them to be angels, they will just rebel against you.
Kookie215@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
I agree, because I was the kid who didn’t have any respect for a hypocritical parent.
My mom did a very good job at teaching me that respect is something that is earned and THEN she taught me to think independently and stand up for myself. These are all things she was supposed to do of course. However she followed that up with becoming an alcoholic and crack addict who would leave me alone all the time so she could go party for days. Then was absolutely flabbergasted when I showed her that same level of respect and didn’t follow her rules anymore.
I was in counseling and anger management and truly believed I was the problem at the time, but looking back now that I’m in my 30’s, what did she expect? She’s the one that taught me not to take any shit, and then she started giving me shit.
Inaminate_Carbon_Rod@lemmy.world 13 hours ago
I’m sorry to hear that dude.
I’m glad you’ve been able to make some progress getting past the bullshit.