Comment on How to respectfully and subtly tell dad and his new gf they're too loud when having sex?

EnsignWashout@startrek.website ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

• AstralPath@lemmy.ca ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  This feels like malicious compliance to me. If I was your kid, I’d be pissed if you felt entitled to attempting to assert dominance like this.

  This is how your kids start resenting you as they grow up. Consider treating them like they’re a part of a family unit that respects boundaries instead of shoving a material possession their way to shut them up. Growing up feeling like an inconvenient burden fucks up a lot of kids in this world.

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  • EnsignWashout@startrek.website ⁨10⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    Uh… So no gift. Got it.

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  • the_d0c_is_in@lemmy.ml ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    who’s house is it? and should 2 consenting adults adapt how they have sex so that others don’t feel like their “boundaries” have been disrespected?

    your answer seems like very much entitled. It gives the vibe that everyone should adapt to your wishes, and not the other way around.

    OP should talk to them about it. but like everything in life, if they don’t like their answer, they may need to choose how to deal with it, instead of expecting things to change.

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    • AstralPath@lemmy.ca ⁨17⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      whose house is it? If you have a kid, that kid is equally entitled to the space you’ve brought them into. That’s a burden you chose to bear when you chose to see a pregnancy to fruition.

      should two consenting aduts adapt…? Yes, especially in the presence of children. Even if we were talking about roommates instead of kids it should be self-evident that your roommate is not wanting to hear you having sex twice a day. Its a common courtesy to be considerate of others around you.

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    • WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      and should 2 consenting adults adapt how they have sex so that others don’t feel like their “boundaries” have been disrespected?

      well if they have made that person then the answer is definitely yes. It’s not like a quest who was accepted on a favor or something

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• WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.works ⁨5⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  I am still going to continue having (probably still loud) sex in the house. Unless my kids fully paying a roommate’s share of the costs to run the home, they’re still kids, not roommates.

  with your mentality, who cares about roommates even. they should join or find a quiet place right?

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