I tried Tandoor and Mealie. Currently I use Mealie because Tandoor crapped it’s pants on me and I lost everything I had there, Mealie is simpler and allows export/import to JSON or similar so I can keep a backup that can be converted into any other format I want to.

That being said I don’t use the list feature, and we use Bring at home, so KitchenOwl mentioned here also seems like a good idea for lists and I might check it out.