I tell people I have a 24 hour SLA. I’ll respond to messages within 24 hours, barring circumstances like a trip to somewhere remote or illness. Likely sooner, but that’s a bonus. No one has ever complained.

I just hate the feeling that someone could suddenly message me. I hate having to pull out my phone because a message has arrived and I have to respond. I hate having to look at it every few seconds when I am trying to do something else, because someone messaged me.

There’s probably a nicer, more effective, way to say this, but: stop doing this. You don’t have to respond. You don’t even have to look. Put your phone on silent. Leave it in the other room.