she thinks i’m disgusting or inferior because of my disabilities.

If she said this to me, this bit right here is the “full stop” where I would have cut ties with her and she’d be gone from my life. At best she may be younger, and this may have been said as a tantrum of someone too young. She may grow out of it, but its not my job to “fix” her. There is much better use of my time, effort, and empathy with anyone else but this person. Its also possible this is who she is.

The result is the same: I’d simply never interact or talk to her again, and move on with my life. There are literally billions of other people in the world that aren’t this person. I’d like to get to know those other people instead.