Comment on The right person for me deserves better.

ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

• Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  Library or bookstore, babeeeey

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  • Rawdogthatexe@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Libraries need bars. I’ve been to a bookstore with a bar inside, it’s a good move.

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    • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      Oh fuck that’s a great business model. Maybe one day I’ll open a library/cafe/bar with nice music and atmosphere

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  • Bahnd@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Just any third place in general, they mostly died out during the last plague and are only starting to return to the world. If your looking for someone, go do interesting things in front of interesting people.

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  • ArcaneSlime@lemmy.dbzer0.com ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    I tried the library, but unfortunately my local is populated with people whom it would either be illegal and/or undesirable to date, it’s mostly kids, olds (like, grandma/grandpa old. I’m an old but not that old, I’m looking for something in a decade-size 30s), or unfortunately houseless people (and while that in and of itself isn’t necessarily a dealbreaker, it often comes with things that are in my experience, can’t be dating addicts anymore for my own health, it is what it is.)

    Bookstores maybe, and I’ve seen people in the store that I totally would love to get to know (who knows how it’d go y’know but I’m down for some coffee or something to determine compatibility beyond attraction yadda yadda), however it is my understanding that it is never appropriate to approach a woman in public and talk to her while she’s just trying to go about her business shopping, or god forbid working, anywhere.

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    • Banana@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

      I mean, there’s no cheat code to meeting people. It requires you to put yourself out there, and what better way to put yourself out there than to publicly enjoy things you enjoy?

      Do things you’re interested in, self express (have fun with clothes, pins, patches, whatever, they make a good conversation starter), notice other people self expressing. As far as approaching people goes, it’s always safe to compliment something somebody obviously put effort into, and then from there you can gauge whether they’re interested in more of a conversation.

      Opening yourself up to rejection is difficult and scary, but also just a necessary part of making connections.

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