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Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses?
Grimy@lemmy.world 4 days ago
It seems obvious you know your behavior sucks. You can either make an effort, which most people actually do, or you can pretend you don’t understand and use it as an excuse.
Eventually they won’t be there for you. Why would they when you can’t even be polite or watch their stupid little half a minute videos.
Relationships take effort. It’s easy to notice when the effort is only one sided and it’s very hard to come back from it once it’s clear. Minimum effort or less doesn’t make for good friendships.
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 4 days ago
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 4 days ago
What if I’m too depressed to watch their videos, let alone text?
Azzu@lemm.ee 4 days ago
Then you’re a bad friend because of your depression. It’s unfortunate and not something you should feel even more bad/depressed about, but it’s simply true.
If they’re good friends they will understand if you just tell them the truth. Instead of saying “No” you can just say, “sorry, I’m really depressed, I can’t do this”. It’s a bit longer to write/say, but at least you’re communicating honestly.
CatDemons4@lemmings.world 3 days ago
Thank you so much. I told my friends that I was really depressed and that I was sorry.
Azzu@lemm.ee 3 days ago
I’m glad :) I hope you can get to a better place with your depression. I’ve been through it, I know how much it sucks. If you need more advice/explanations/help, don’t hesitate to ask.
Many people in here treated you very unfairly, because you did sound very much like you’re saying “I’m incredibly amazing and can do nothing wrong”, and some people assume that such a person could never do something different and they absolutely hate that.
A healthy confidence is incredibly important, but so is knowing that you’re not perfect either. I’m very proud that it seems like you can do both :)