When I went on the first few dates with my now-wife, I did not flirt with her as in try to tease her or do anything overtly sexual.

I honestly think I won her over because how enthusiastic I was about telling stories. She said I was so charming because of how passionate and animated I was while telling her about myself that she could see how confident and content I was.

Prior to meeting her at 35, I had never had a girlfriend and had only ever gone on 2 dates.