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GeorgeGR@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

I don’t know anything about you. But judging from that response I would guess that you’re not neurotypical. And folks who are neurotypical are going to find what you said a hard pill to swallow. Often in life you have to pretend to “fit in”, it’s just the price of living in a society. If you feel like you have to say that, I’d keep it a hell of a lot shorter “I’m really here to get work done in the most efficient way I can. I really prefer to keep my work and personal life separate. If you compare me with other people who feel the same way it would be greatly appreciated.”

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vestmoria@linux.community ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

And folks who are neurotypical are going to find what you said a hard pill to swallow.

why? are people really this thin skinned?

fwiw these people I described are not the doctors, but like 40% of the nurses. Doctors are not the reason I quit, but these nurses are. I’m actually gonna miss working with some nurses here, the good ones, the drama free ones.

Often in life you have to pretend to “fit in”, it’s just the price of living in a society.

does that means listening to dumb stories I don’t care about? My brain starts yelling me to leave.

It would be bearable if they didn’t act like children (another coworker, a neurotypical one if you like, told me that).

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PM_Your_Nudes_Please@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
Yep, I was going to say something very similar. To be blunt, this post sounds autistic as hell. Nothing wrong with that, but (just from the way they described their interactions in the post) if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.

It will likely make teamwork difficult, because many people will likely try to avoid working with OP as a result. And a manager will pick up on that during the interview process if OP says everything they did in the post. When a manager is hiring, they’re not just looking at skills or training; They’re also looking to see if you’ll be a good fit for the team.

Neurodivergent people tend to get weeded out during this process, because managers don’t want to deal with employees not wanting to work together. Is it petty? Yes. Is it blatant ableism? Yes. Is it illegal? Yes, but nothing will ever be done about it unless they’re dumb enough to say they’re refusing you specifically because you’re autistic.

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- vestmoria@linux.community ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  
  if OP isn’t masking then neurotypicals will likely see OP as rude, cold, or robotic.
  
  assuming that your post is in good faith, do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?
  
  Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?
  
  It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school. I just want to work and go home.
  
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  - PM_Your_Nudes_Please@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    
    do you understand how tiring and ludicrous it is to pretend something you are not?
    
    Yes, I do it every day. My masking is so solid that I even struggle to drop it when I’m alone.
    
    Should we advice gays to pretend not being gay?
    
    Only tangentially related, because of all of the hard (being murdered, being trafficked, being kicked out of home by their parents, etc) persecution that gays have historically faced. In comparison, autistic persecution has been more of the “soft” (not getting hired, not fitting in, being seen as weird, etc) variety. It’s not really a good faith comparison, because “autistic pride” isn’t really a thing.
    
    It’s not my fault some of my coworkers stopped growing up immediately after leaving high school.
    
    And yet it would still affect your chances of getting hired and/or fitting in with your coworkers. It’s not your fault, but it is your problem to deal with. And (aside from uprooting the entire system and only hiring coworkers who will tolerate unmasked autism) masking is the most straightforward way to deal with it.
    
    I’m not saying it’s healthy in the long term. But that’s not what your post was about. Your post was about whether or not it would be a good idea to tell a potential employer that you hate listening to coworkers talk amongst themselves. If your goal is to get hired, then telling them that wouldn’t be a good idea. Because it would exclude you from being hired for “not being a good fit for the team.”
    
    I just want to work and go home.
    
    And finding a job like that is absolutely feasible… But expecting it out of every single coworker in a face-to-face job likely isn’t feasible. If that’s the vibe you’re going for, then maybe look into a work-from-home position, or something involving things instead of people. People like to prattle, especially about themselves.
    
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