Comment on The guardian on Joe Rogan's popularity in Aus, and some peoples' reasons for listening.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 days agoI think many are quick to colour all men with the same brush when any man does something bad (murder, domestic violence, etc). This ignores the fact that most men aren’t doing this and are helpless to stop it. It’s not like we’re choosing to let domestic violence to continue. We’re just as powerless as anyone else.
And there’s a real focus on the worst of men’s behaviour, without any appreciation of the good things men do, to balance it out.
All men are flawed, just like all women are flawed (except my Mrs). We’re all a mix of good and bad, trying to do our best.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
I think this is really interesting, who do you think can?
It’s also true that male loneliness is pretty significant, and lonely guys are more prone to developing extreme and hateful views but the only people that can do anything about man to man friendships are other men.
There are some fantastic initiatives like lens sheds that are trying to knit a healthy social structure and almost nobody participates in them.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 4 days ago
Men don’t have to have male friends to not be lonely. Any friends will do. I have lots of great female friends.
As far as solving domestic violence, I don’t know how to do that. But I think we can all agree that we want it to end. Probably even the perpetrators of DV want it to end.
Maybe a big part of it is finding those who are most likely to be perpetrators and try to understand them better. And help them better understand themselves.
naevaTheRat@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 days ago
I do note an interesting difference in your approach to how to handle DV vs how to handle someone stringing a wire across a bike path. It may be a contradiction you wish to reflect on.
You might want to read this book to get a better idea behind the psychology of DV.
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 3 days ago
What are you doing to prevent DV? (Not a challenge, I’m genuinely curious if you’re part of any efforts)
DavidDoesLemmy@aussie.zone 3 days ago
There’s a difference between prevention and punishment. I believe people who kill their spouse (or attempt to on multiple occasions) should be imprisoned for life.