Sorry but some hobbies aren’t about validation, they are still social hobbies that require feedback.
If someone’s hobby is being a standup comedian and they go to 10 shows and there are 10 people at each show and 1 person laughs, then that person is probably going to want to quit stand up comedy.
It may be that the person is just not a good comedian, but it doesn’t mean that their hobby wasn’t stand up comedy and making people laugh.
If you take the analogy that at their shows, they do long form, story comedy and then they get that lack of response and yet another person comes in, tells a recycled “your mother” joke and a “that’s what she said” joke and suddenly every seat is filled and everyone is roaring, you could see how that could make someone cynical? It’s not that they don’t actually like comedy.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
ok. i personally know more than one person who thinks they’re hilarious and don’t care that no one else thinks so. they’re enjoying themselves and that’s enough for them.
and before you start talking about money (“need” feedback) , if you’re doing something in order to get paid, now you’re moving from “hobby” to “job” territory, which is a completely different thing. my point stands
Bassman1805@lemmy.world 2 days ago
There’s a big difference between someone who is/thinks they’re funny, and someone who does comedy as a hobby.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
true, comedy inherently requires an audience, but you’re trying to move away from the core point of trying to get people to care about you on social media. people in a comedy bar are there specifically to watch comedy. not everyone who’s online is here specifically to watch hand crafted videos, and lamenting over the fact that you’re not getting engagement/upvotes (especially on lemmy) is just stressing yourself out for no good reason