Nah, I legit enjoyed it as a hobby. I did let things get to me trying to make stuff people would enjoy, there’s no question about that. Spend hours on something, enjoy making it, only for people to not carr about the end result is disheartening. Imagine having fun making a painting for a year with the goal of making people happy only for no one to look at it.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
it’s not the hobby you enjoyed, it was the fake validation from internet randos
if your joy in life is dependent on social media likes, then you’re in for a bad time
jawa21@lemmy.sdf.org 2 days ago
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 2 days ago
it is possible to enjoy doing a thing and have that be enough, without being discouraged because “not enough other people care about it.” i know because i used to get stressed about the same shit. coming to terms with the fact that 99.9999% of people on the planet just don’t care about you or anything you do might be tough, but once you get to “well i don’t really care about 99.9999% of people on the planet either” it gets easier
JustEnoughDucks@feddit.nl 1 day ago
Sorry but some hobbies aren’t about validation, they are still social hobbies that require feedback.
If someone’s hobby is being a standup comedian and they go to 10 shows and there are 10 people at each show and 1 person laughs, then that person is probably going to want to quit stand up comedy.
It may be that the person is just not a good comedian, but it doesn’t mean that their hobby wasn’t stand up comedy and making people laugh.
If you take the analogy that at their shows, they do long form, story comedy and then they get that lack of response and yet another person comes in, tells a recycled “your mother” joke and a “that’s what she said” joke and suddenly every seat is filled and everyone is roaring, you could see how that could make someone cynical? It’s not that they don’t actually like comedy.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
ok. i personally know more than one person who thinks they’re hilarious and don’t care that no one else thinks so. they’re enjoying themselves and that’s enough for them.
and before you start talking about money (“need” feedback) , if you’re doing something in order to get paid, now you’re moving from “hobby” to “job” territory, which is a completely different thing. my point stands
Bassman1805@lemmy.world 1 day ago
There’s a big difference between someone who is/thinks they’re funny, and someone who does comedy as a hobby.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
true, comedy inherently requires an audience, but you’re trying to move away from the core point of trying to get people to care about you on social media. people in a comedy bar are there specifically to watch comedy. not everyone who’s online is here specifically to watch hand crafted videos, and lamenting over the fact that you’re not getting engagement/upvotes (especially on lemmy) is just stressing yourself out for no good reason
Annoyed_Crabby@monyet.cc 2 days ago
Seeking recognition is very human thing to do, it’s part of what make us human a social animal. Most people can’t live in a vacuum and be okay. Besides, showing people what they made and what they create is a good way to gauge one ability and see what works and what not. Of course there’s some hobby that can be enjoyed alone without sharing, but for creative stuff? Not really.
solsangraal@lemmy.zip 1 day ago
another thing that makes us human is that yes, we absolutely do have some degree of control over what stresses us out. one of those things being what the world thinks about us, or whether they even care (spoiler alert: most don’t, especially on social media). i’m not telling anyone what to do or how to be. only what anyone can do