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OpenStars@discuss.online 2 months agoYou can see for yourself that slinging accusations at others is only making it worse. In the real world, people have made all kinds of allowances for you (you didn’t have to ask, they’ve done it since birth), but on the internet, nobody can see things like your age, your religion, what part of the world you are from, how sexually (in-)experienced you are, your privilege (wealth, class, etc.) status, and so much more. And here, people can be brutally honest, at least in sharing what they think of you (even if their own belief structures are themselves based on lies). TLDR: people downvote things that they “don’t like”, and upvote things that they “do like”.
Your comment obviously does not match the “vibe” of !ShowerThoughts@lemmy.world… so, you did not predict that, but now you know - thus you are already smarter than you were just an hour before, or at least could be if you take the feedback to heart:-).
If you want more advice: hold fast to whatever principles you believe in - maybe Truth? perhaps Humility? do you perchance enjoy vindictiveness, or do you hate it, especially if it is done to you in reverse? Whatever those are, then there you go: you don’t need me telling you what to do - you already know.
Btw, I hope my words also expose how you were being hypocritical in sharing your original thought. But if it will help I will lay it out more plainly & transparently: girls do something totally normal, but you (arbitrarily?) decide that it is “bad”, so now “Women have been ruined for me” (it’s your thought fine, but how do you think “women” feel after reading that?) - do you not see how that is exactly what others are doing to you right now (having decided that what you did is “bad”, and now slinging insults at you - that part of this exchange you do not seem to enjoy quite as much?). This isn’t even a religious principle, it’s a foundational law of the entire universe - equivalent exchange, or whatever name you want to call it by - if you cannot receive something directed back at you, then perhaps do not dish it out at others in return? It is unkind, and what is more, it is not smart. Perhaps your family never taught you that - maybe they tried, or perhaps they did not know themselves - but now that you have heard this message, it is your choice what to do with it: either pay attention and learn, or reject it and continue to do whatever.
GrammarPolice@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Your words cut deep my friend and have made me realize that some of the wording i.e “women have been ruined for me” that i used was inappropriate. I certainly don’t think women taking a shit is bad. Still, my genuine feelings toward the subject have not shifted: IT FEELS WEIRD IMAGINING WOMEN, PARTICULARLY THE ONE’S I’M ATTRACTED TO, TAKING A SHIT. And i stand on that. Maybe I’ll grow out of it, maybe not; I don’t know.
I still think that even without my use of polarising language i would’ve been downvoted. That’s probably a difference in perspective between me and the people interacting with the post. I don’t hate women. I’m not sexist nor am i bigoted. This is just something i thought about and felt it would fit into the general vibe of this sub. Clearly, i was wrong.
I do appreciate you taking the effort to tell me this and especially this
That was deep, and i hadn’t thought of that prior. So once again, thank you for making me realise my mistake
OpenStars@discuss.online 2 months ago
It’s fine to think it’s weird. It’s part of the process of growth (of ideas I mean, nothing to do with your own age). Continue to think about it though, and it won’t be weird anymore. (I know… it sounds “weird” for me to say that?:-P)
And on the other side of that, you will find something MUCH better - that women are people, almost literally exactly like you are. Except not precisely bc duh differences exist -but also yes, just as there are short or tall or medium sized men, there are people who are men, and there are people who are women. And we all shit. 😂
You were lifting up women as being “special” somehow - which is part of the mystery, and girls literally play into that by attempting to hold back farts, belches, etc. (and guys do the same, getting high-paying jobs, driving sports cars, wearing toupets to cover bald spots, pretending to have confidence while hiding their true feelings, which is really quite damaging but that’s the game and if you don’t play then you absolutely lose, etc.) - but an even deeper mystery awaits on the other side of that, realizing just how equal they are, even despite how you had a crush on them. Like, that wasn’t a doll that you liked, it was a person… who is full of so many more surprises and wonders (and farts and yes literal shit too, until it comes out and goes into the toilet:-). And I daresay that you would be quite incapable of loving a “person” so long as you continued to think of them as a “doll”, but now that you realize this, you can actually, TRULY love someone.
Btw, don’t be tempted to get too down over this. Some people have been married for years and years before they figure this out - not that “everyone poops”, bc that you figure out quite quickly, you know?:-P - but bc life can get busy, and leave you not that much time to think (there’s school, maybe college, maybe grad school, there’s work, there’s kids, it’s all A LOT!), some people in the past could get quite far into a marriage without ever fully realizing the full impact of what this means; that women are full-on people too. So, if you have time to think, and the willingness to do so, think about it, and see where that takes you.:-) 😉