Comment on Where can I report mod abuse?
Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 month agoPlease point out the abuse. The curse words? That’s not abuse. lol
And what about all the abuse I keep enduring that has followed me back to this thread? Why is there a lot of tolerance for that and for people accusing me of many thing like being disrespectful and ban evasion? Why is this ok?
Following someone from a comment to DM to try and argue with them, especially after your comments were deleted, is absolutely abuse.
What did you tell me to do when I was not even talking to you? Oh yeah, “back off, and take several seats”.
I mean. I have gained some pounds the past couple of years, but I still only take up one seat thank you very much.
Abuse is not when you reply with a much-deserve rebuttal, but making the person you replied to look bad by abusing the fact that they can’t reply is abuse.
I was not even talking to you?
Lmao I guess the screenshots were a figment of our collective imagination.
Oh no, a newfound victim of fat phobia! 😂 See, this is the shit you do.
InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Seeing as you’re evidently not banned, this was, essentially, a warning.
Not even just for you but something I repeat here whenever the subject comes up because…
Lemmy is dumb: recipients can’t delete DMs, ever, only senders. These DMs are then forever stuck in the recipient’s inbox unless an admin with database access deletes it for them.
I don’t usually bother, but since you asked and lemmy DMs aren’t private (reminder to heed the warning on the DM page) :
Again, while you’re evidently not site-banned yet, this DM isn’t exactly civil or respectful either. I don’t think you were banned for the comments, but for that DM, but wtf do I know.
Honestly, not sure which outcome you were hoping for with that one…
If people abuse you here, do report it. It has different community mods/admins as its caretakers. People in the 20-ish comments here have been respectful and even helpful so far.
The discussion from the previous thread… which wasn’t fun for you, followed you in this thread, which you’ve made to discuss said previous thread.
My confusion… can only be expressed by John Travolta looking around for Barbra Streisand’s lawyer.
The initial thread is a bit… whatever.
You were somewhat sour on an otherwise (subjectively) wholesome thing, whatever.
You had an unpopular opinion, I think you failed to read the room? Whatever.
When I have an unpopular opinion, I take the loss and move on.
Instead, a tumblr meme has somehow escalated into this shitting-beans level drama.
Instead of just taking the downvotes, this became an argument.
Instead of moving on, this got mods involved?
You mention you didn’t care about the ban, but here we are, now with exponentially more people piling in with whatever take they might have, which you’re still not having fun discussing.
And now admins are involved somehow, because you didn’t like a poem and insist on dying on that hill.
I say this to you and to everyone who read this far, sincerely, as a fellow human being: our mental health is worth more than whatever social media beanshit.
Forget about this for a second. Go do something fun.
Or don’t, maybe escalate this further somehow.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 month ago
I wasn’t gonna bother but it’s bothering me that you got a few things wrong while basing your arguments on those and are being overly prescriptive.
I don’t know where you got these ideas but I invite you to take a look at the modlog first. There’s my ban and all my comments deleted, so we can stop pretending that I did something that I did not. You’re the third/fourth person in this thread accusing me of random things.
I was gonna be banned regardless and they were extremely clear about that. So instead of quoting my DM, why didn’t you also quote the mod’s. I feel like that one was just as if not more incriminating. Did they delete it? Because that was a reply to something I received that I can’t find in my inbox anymore.
But I want to know why all my comments were deleted and not the other people harassing me. Check the mod logs.
Why, so they can do whatever besides enforcing the rules? Do you think this event leaves me with any trust in this system to rely on it again? Have you put yourself in my shoes?
Good for you, but I don’t have to. I’m fine with explaining why I think the things I do and take many Ls in the process. I’m just weird out that you are focusing on downvotes when I have not even mentioned them. But I am complaining about the disrespect, the rude comments, and the accusations that you’ve largely ignored. You don’t even mention them.
Yeah, because the people in that thread jumped over to this thread. How is that on me, honestly? The topic of this thread is divorced from the comments. The only drama here is from the instigators. I invite you to read the entire thread if you haven’t.
Like, I don’t even know why you’re focusing on the thread itself if you think it’s “beanshit”. I’m on board with that. The topic here is the misconduct of the mod that you and everyone else have largely ignored as well.
Yes, because of the outright insults and people getting nasty on that other thread. Again, how is their behavior on me when they come out of the blue swinging because they disagree? I’m not responsible for their comments, especially when I was nothing but civil and sincere. How come I don’t get credit for that?
I can not care about the ban and at the same time care about misconduct. Those two ideas are mutually exclusive. I don’t know why you’re conflating them to drive some point.
Again, I don’t know where you got that. I’m a fairly argumentative person by nature, as you can see. I’m having a blast.
Again, I don’t know where you got that. I just got back from a board game night with friends. There were 12 of us in a tiny apartment. You don’t need to paint me in a certain light and on top of that be this dismissive.
All this said, “as a fellow human being” the very least you can do for another human being is to stop assuming things about them and focus on the things that matter. You can give me the benefit of the doubt and look at the sources like the modlog. That is, if you really mean what you say.
InEnduringGrowStrong@sh.itjust.works 1 month ago
Im talking about site-bans, not community bans.
DMs don’t happen in a community, so a community ban wouldn’t prevent them. Garbage DMs usually mean site bans.
You’re evidently not banned from SJW yet because you can still write here.
You’re evidently not banned from .world yet because you can still login.
I quoted it elsewhere and it’s honestly nothing special, to which you replied with insults to the mod.
community banned
Not sure what personal attacks because the only comment you reported is this one:
It’s a pretty tame thread all things considered. You wanna discuss this with them, they don’t, take the hint.
They were all deleted at once when the mod banned you, there’s a checkbox to remove all your stuff along with the ban. You know, the mod you had just called a dipshit when they DMd you about your report.
Like, I don’t know what the fuck you’re expecting when interacting with people.
Yes, we’ve noticed. Doesn’t mean other people have to want to interact with you.
Am I to conclude that relentlessly arguing about inane things is your jam then? (Trick question)
You keep mentioning people attacking you over there and I didn’t see it. The comments were all tame and your only report is frivolous at best.
You keep mentioning personal attacks in this here thread, most people have been helpful and the one comment mentioning ban evasion was removed a while ago.
Your comments weren’t the problem.
Other people’s comments weren’t the problem.
Your behavior since is what I’m worried about.
You’ve somehow escalated a minor disagreement into a potential site ban.
Some people liked it, you don’t. It’s fine.
Move on.
Someone disagreed with you. It’s fine.
Move on.
You reported a mostly benign comment and the mod basically told you they weren’t getting involved in your daycare courtyard stuff.
Move on.
You then called them a dipshit and got banned from a their community. (Surprised Pikachu)
Move on.
It even expires in a month!
Move on.
You made this post complaining about mod abuse when you had just called them a dipshit.
Move. The. Fuck. On.
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You’re still not getting the hint that people don’t wanna be involved in your petty stuff.
At every point in time you’ve had an easy exit, which is to just move the fuck on, but you’ve insisted on dying on the tiniest hill I’ve ever seen.
I’ll be explicitly clear.
This last bit isn’t me having an argument with you.
This isn’t a discussion, but a warning.
It’s me telling you that this whole thing is a non-issue and if you don’t move on, then don’t come crying when your account is inevitably nuked.
Move. The. Fuck. On.
Lemminary@lemmy.world 1 month ago
They edited the comment, that’s not what it said originally, which is the only reason I reported and they added the stuff about not wanting to interact later to avoid the ban. I would never report that. And why would someone who doesn’t want to interact keep being nasty until they realize they had nothing? All they had to say was berate me on what I think and not respecting MY wishes to not elaborate further, which is only two messages above that one. Why is that not respected if I’m expected to respect someone else? Instaed they berated me further. But please, tell me where I was “you’re horrifically rude and unnecessarily aggressive” when that person had been doing it to me first and out of nowhere. You don’t look at that, you got your blinders on for when I had enough.
Thank you for noticing! I wish you’d notice the way people have been treating me in that other thread and in this one. It’s pretty obvious that the only thing you care about is piling on even more. Go ahead, do it to your heart’s content as you do. You talk so much about human beings but you forget your talking to one. I also wish you’d notice that the reason for the ban had nothing to do with my participation. If that had happened to you I bet you would also have been upset at being treated like dirt by mods on top of having to endure the pissy replies out of the blue.
Yeah, figured you’d turn a blind eye to that too. Just selectively finding reasons to blame it all on me. Like I said, you have yet to put yourself in my shoes.
I. Will. Not. And. I. Don’t. Have. To. You move the fuck on because all you got is being nasty too. Set the example of when someone replies and you’re told to bottle up after everything that happened.
Just so we’re clear: I don’t wish to interact further. Respect that.