oftenawake

@oftenawake@lemmy.dbzer0.com

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  I have four kids - thankfully I’m not in the USA. Trust me here? The meltdown isn’t about the cinnamon toast and neither do you have to buy it. Your own rage also isn’t about cinnamon toast, or your kid - these are the triggers not the cause.

  Make sure you let your kids know that you love them and you care. Be on their side emotionally, even as you’re saying no to something. Direct your rage at predatory capitalism for your exhaustion, not your kid! They will forget the cinnamon toast but they won’t forget that you were angry with them if it happens a lot. Your relationship with your children is precious and delicate, and not worth wrecking for any amount of money.

  Good luck, you are stronger than you know!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨[deleted]⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨day⁩ ago⁩:

  Reverse number the days and count them down until it’s finished? You’re almost done, hang in there!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨An in-space construction firm says it can help build massive data centers in orbit⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Welp, that’s a fuckin stupid idea. Next!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨An ex-Intel CEO’s mission to build a Christian AI: ‘hasten the coming of Christ’s return’⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  So glad to read your comment @SparowHawk. This is exactly it, and why I am no longer a hardcore atheist. We can’t connect with anyone while we’re in the middle of telling them that they’re wrong - even if they are completely wrong about factual matters. It’s essential to build connection first, then conduct any education through the connection. Without connecting it’s wasted effort.

  The educating can’t come through coercion or condemnation either, because those shut people down. If we don’t offer something better then we push those people away. We might write them off and say “fuck em, who cares!” and that’s how we end up at political deadlock and perpetual war.

  This is why the fascists are so terrified of empathy, because intelligent, educated people (lots of those around!) who are highly empathic (not so many, it’s a harder skill) joining together and building connections with and between the masses, already have all the tools to dismantle the whole scam we’re living in.

  Empathy and education, from kindness not condemnation, is unstoppable. Though I will grant that there’s not much in it for rugged individualism, but lots in it for diverse, individuality-celebrating collectivism.

  Of course we’re supposed to be arguing - we’ll never get anywhere that way.

  Empathy lets you say “I absolutely disagree with your view, yet I still value you as a human, so am committed to your long-term wellbeing” and other similar bits of “radical hate speech” which, put into action will dismantle capitalism, fascism, authoritarianism, religions, prisons… you name it.

  But it can’t be passive, it is something for each person to be putting into action all the time.

  That’s my spiritual practise and I don’t feel personally affronted if someone disagrees with it or doesn’t understand it any more, because it’s just with myself and how I want to be in life with myself and others anyway.

  There are billions of us humans and we’re unstoppable when we put aside our petty differences and work together for common dreams.

  …besides, if you don’t agree with me, you’re wrong! /s

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨A completely useful compulsion I have.⁩ ⁨⁨2⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  I’ve been combining eggs and my interest in Go (the ancient board game) to similar effect.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨AWS crash causes $2,000 Smart Beds to overheat and get stuck upright⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:
  1. Invent incredibly dumb device.
  2. Brand it as “Smart” to lean into Dunning-Kruger effect sales.
  3. Profit!!
• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Elon Musk says he needs $1 trillion to control Tesla's robot army. Yes, really.⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Extremely destructive to the future of the company, you say? Go on…?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone else notice an up tick in hostility on Lemmy lately?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Thanks! I’m still a Lemmy account noob though I’ve been lurking for a year. Ex-Reddit - finally deleted my account there, it was time!

  Part of what took me so long to sign up for Lemmy was ADHD and trying to choose an instance to join! So in the end I picked a geek/coder/anarcho/punk/egalitarian seeming one.

  Hadn’t really thought about people blocking the whole instance. I mostly just like to help answer questions and engage in some online banter.

  Is this the point in my Lemmy life where I decide to create a second account on another instance just in case!? Probably, lol!

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Does anyone else notice an up tick in hostility on Lemmy lately?⁩ ⁨⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago⁩:

  Oh shit I’m on dbzer0 - just seemed like a good geeky instance. Is it a problematic one? Thx!