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- Comment on What would happen to the Earth if it got booped by a giant asteroid going super slowly? 5 hours ago:
c/OddlySpecific
- Comment on what advice can you give me to try and mend a broken friendship so we don't interrupt each other or yell at each other while trying to solve our issues? 5 days ago:
✅Second NVC. Just buy an app that helps structure your script that it goes thru the procees fill in the blanks style kind of and it will give you a decent starting point if you like something a bit more interactive than the basic diagram above
Maybe listen to a session or some NVC clips in action on Youtube to get a feel for it
Invite them to use NVC (even let them use your app when its their turn) on something they need that maybe they feel like you’re not 100% on for them.
If the friendship has the legs, they will be into it, if not they will likey feel like you’re not worth the trouble for them. Either way, its good because it seperates the wheat from the chaff in terms of who your actualy genuine relationships are with.
Plan it out first, then text them step by step if they are open to engaging. I really like texting for these things because it gives everyone space to think and react or slow themselvesdown and be more conscious of how they are feeling and what their options are for responding and its easier to be grace-giving because its not face to face
- Comment on what advice can you give me to try and mend a broken friendship so we don't interrupt each other or yell at each other while trying to solve our issues? 5 days ago:
Second NVC. Just buy an app that helps structure your script that it goes thru the procees fill in the blanks style kind of and it will give you a decent starting point
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- Comment on How often do guys have a haircut? 1 week ago:
:(
- Comment on Which came first: the kidney bean or the kidney body part? 1 week ago:
Maybe we evolved from kidney beanz…
- Comment on Why is insulting people for their state (Florida) ok, but not gender or race? 2 weeks ago:
I mean, in a way its kinda not. I use to laugh at all the FloridaMan stuff but having watched the amount of law stuff and knowing the politics that led to what places like Florida are actually like today, theres nothing funny about it really.
People who choose to live in Florida and vote with their dollars deserve whatever scorn that can be heaped on them. But I try to reserve judgement until I know someone has made that conscious choice voluntarily before I let it rip
- Comment on How come butthole scratches doesn't get infected with poop bacteria ? 2 weeks ago:
Dammit, Assy
- Comment on What happend to messenging apps interoperability in the EU? 2 weeks ago:
You probably dont want things to actually interoperate with Meta, they’re not exactly trustworthy
- Comment on What's good to know before transferring from Emergency to Operation Room as a nurse? 2 weeks ago:
Nurse Patchit
- Comment on Is there a word for the happiness in finding the exact right word? 2 weeks ago:
“Bon mot”
- Comment on What strategy would you use to estimate the number of hazelnuts 2 weeks ago:
If you put them in the trash there’s 0
- Comment on Is playing horror games a good way to get desensitized to fear, or it gonna backfire and make my anxiety worse? 2 weeks ago:
I wonder if thats what makes movies more terrifying, like you have no control and you told that dumb motherfucker NOT to peek behind the curtain but they couldnt hear you cuz its just a screen. Horrific Irony
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 3 weeks ago:
I was sort of getting at that. The tricky part is people will almost never treat you better than 1. You treat and present yourself and 2. How you assert you are to be treated by them.
You can start small tho. Try to not say sorry for anything thats not an actual sorry-worthy accident or mistake for a day. Thats it
- Comment on If you argue for a cause like affordable housing for everyone, is it necessarily hypocritical if you also own investment properties? 3 weeks ago:
I dont think this set or facts has ever aligned in the history of…forever
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 3 weeks ago:
Thats sort of disingenuous and also inauthentic tho. Its really not helping anyone when you affirm non-existsnt grievances
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 3 weeks ago:
What would happen if you just… didnt and just did your business
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 3 weeks ago:
Bad habit. How come they dont apologize equally to you?
- Comment on do you apologize, even if it's not your fault just to make the other person feel validated? 3 weeks ago:
It can be problematic when there’s no established actual violation and you simply go along with whoever is doing the demanding…
People who demand apologies are seldom the type who actually deserve apologies. Discernment is quite necessary here, if you apologize unduly, you are setting a pattern that helps establish the response they expect even when they act unreasonably or uncivilly.
- Comment on If you argue for a cause like affordable housing for everyone, is it necessarily hypocritical if you also own investment properties? 3 weeks ago:
Only if you’re advising on how to close all the bullshit loopholes you’ve exploited preventing them from being used further.
- Comment on what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you? 3 weeks ago:
FORD?