exocrinous
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- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 1 day ago:
If you like the tactics soulism adds to the leftist arsenal, you should read the soulist manifesto at soulism.net. There’s only a few dozen of us, but after reading the manifesto, I saw some pretty huge failures in the mainstream leftist worldview. Most leftists want to win a material victory against Capital, but they categorically refuse to deconstruct the social reality created by Capital to control us. Socially, they’re reactive. They take the way their opponent describes the world at face value and only disagree when the scientific method disagrees. But most of our reality is social, not scientific, and the scientific method doesn’t help you with that. The mainstream right is much better at crafting realities - a process we soulists call magic - than the mainstream left is. Escaping the body prison doesn’t really help if you can’t even begin to challenge the mind prison.
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 1 day ago:
I thought so. As a soulist, I’m interested in deconstructing and remixing social constructs into forms that benefit social justice. I noticed the hypocrisy of transphobes crying wolf about kids going through irreversible changes, and figured out it takes next to zero effort to use their own language. In appropriating the forms of our enemies’ arguments, we reduce their disagreement with us down to its fundamental form - in this case, a religious belief in genetic destiny. That’s the only thing setting their arguments of “for the children” apart from my arguments of “for the children”. And this is a much harder thing for a bystander to accept unquestioningly than “for the children”. I like showing bystanders what’s really setting our enemies apart from us.
Think of it like rhetorical kung fu. Using the opponent’s force against them
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 1 day ago:
It’ll start right back up again completely naturally as soon as you stop taking the pills. The pills are hormone blockers. The gonads still produce sex hormones, but the blockers react with the hormones and render them inert. The inert hormones are passed as urine like any other waste product in the blood. A few days after you stop taking the blockers, they’ll run out and the sex hormones will start expressing themselves just like they would in someone who never took the blockers. Puberty will begin (or resume) just as nature planned.
The only side effect is that you won’t go through puberty. Unfortunately, this does mean you’ll have a child’s amount of bone density, which is not good for a lifetime. But there’s absolutely 0 risk in delaying puberty until age 18. You’ll just grow up slower, the same as any late bloomer.
Hormone blockers are actually a component in an adult trans person’s hormone replacement therapy. To take me as an example, I have a pair of testes which produce testosterone. So I take an antiandrogen; a testosterone blocker, to suppress the effects. And I take estrogen pills so that I have a female blood chemistry. When I started taking hormone pills, my body reacted just like any teenage girl’s body. I got softer skin, mood swings, and better hair. I tell you what, having the emotions of a teenage girl as an adult is an absolute trip. I’m glad they’ve settled down since then. Some trans women I know even got period cramps, despite not having a uterus. I don’t envy them.
The body is genetically programmed to respond to sex hormones in a certain way. It doesn’t matter what you were born as, everyone’s organs, muscles, bones, and brain have a genetic programming that responds to estrogen one way, and testosterone another way. The potential is already inside every living human. That potential remains there for your entire life. Puberty blockers can’t do anything to take it away.
If I ever stopped taking my testosterone blocker, I’d start growing bigger muscles and hair in strange places. My body would resume functioning like a male body. One day I’ll get my testes removed, and I’ll never have to worry about that again. But that surgery is only available to adults, and it requires a psychiatric assessment. I’ve been openly trans for years and years and I’m still not allowed to do it yet. There’s absolutely no risk of a child going through the procedure without the absolute greatest caution, and a very urgent, life-saving need. And even if a horrible one in a billion mistake was made, they could just give the kid hormone pills the same as I take in order to restore their original sexual chemistry.
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 2 days ago:
That’s not true, but I wish it was. I wish everyone who tried to argue against saving children’s lives was pressured out of it by being called a murderer. Instead, murderers like Robert Galbraith are freely appearing in parliament to argue in favour of this legislation.
And I know you can’t tell from the headline, but this new rule against sex ed in schools also prohibits telling children what parts of their body are not okay for an adult to touch. Thanks to this new law, we will have a generation of children who are unable to report sexual abuse. Anyone who is in favour of this law is aiding and abetting pedophiles and getting children raped.
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 2 days ago:
No, that’s not true at all. I was pretty clearly nonbinary growing up, but every adult told me that natural puberty was a good thing and there was no way to avoid it. They didn’t tell me that puberty blockers were an option. They should have. It would only be 2 years after reaching natural puberty that I realised I was trans. 2 years of puberty blockers might have made a huge difference to my life. I was sure as shit rushed by every adult I knew into transitioning into a man, just because I was born with a penis.
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 2 days ago:
You’re a murderer of children.
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 2 days ago:
Personally I think we should be giving kids a lot more support in not transitioning. And by transitioning, I mean transitioning from a girl to a woman or from a boy to a man. If the child isn’t 100% certain they want to go through with massive irreversible hormonal changes, they shouldn’t. I don’t care whether those hormones come from a pill or from a gonad. They can make an informed decision whether to continue with puberty when they’re 16-18
- Comment on Schools won't be allowed to teach children that they can change their gender ID, reports say 2 days ago:
Trans people know they should be the other gender and that puberty causes massive permanent changes to their body they are horrified by. They often do not know that everyone else around them’s deepest fantasy isn’t to wake up one day as the other sex.
Can confirm. As a kid, I saw a lot of jokes about how horrible puberty is. I thought everyone felt the same way as me, since they all acted like it.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 3 days ago:
Actually, my GP gave me medicine to help my appetite even though I’m clearly obese. I was struggling to finish meals and asked the doctor for help. Doctor checked that I understood the risks, made sure I knew the warning signs of diabetes and what to do about them, and gave me appetite pills. I have had my prescription renewed at various different GPs and none of them ever made an issue of it. Turns out, doctors are actually very supportive and attentive to the patient’s individual needs, and it’s only assholes on the internet who make a big deal out of weight. Americans’ mileage may vary because their healthcare system is three insurance companies in a trench coat.
The question is, how many people are nonbinary like me, and feel pressured to live unhealthy lives because of people like you? If I hadn’t transitioned from male to female, then I wouldn’t have the socio-political literacy to have this conversation about gender with you. And that’s most people. How many people are assigned thin woman at birth, are actually fat woman on the outside, but don’t know shit about gender politics because they’re not traditionally trans? It could be a few, it could be a lot. But I guarantee the people who are like me are suffering because of the judgement of those who say there’s no such thing as Health At Every Size.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 3 days ago:
Men and women tend to be different sizes, as I’m sure you’ve noticed. Body size and shape is part of gender. Trans people who are too big or too small to fit their ideal body shape suffer dysphoria. And in cis people, the symptoms of obesity bear an eerie similarity to stress symptoms. Part of the unhealth of obesity for many cis people is gender dysphoria. They have a body shape that doesn’t make them happy, it stresses them out. However, not everyone in the world is a man or a woman. There are other genders, and some of those genders have an ideal size that is larger.
You say gender is nothing to cure, but then you say obesity is always a problem. And you say it to the face of an enby who gained weight on purpose and saw a reduction in physical dysphoria as a result. I didn’t feel comfortable taking pictures of myself until I was what the BMI scale calls overweight. When I was thin, the face in the mirror didn’t look like mine. It looked like some ugly person I’d been told my whole life was me. I’ve grown happier and more confident, and I have fewer suicidal ideations
And I still pursue physical health at my current weight.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 3 days ago:
Okay you’re still saying someone can’t be overweight and healthy, so like I promised, I’m gonna assert that there’s no such thing as men’s health. Being male will make a man die sooner. We need to give all men estrogen pills immediately and make sure they stick to the regimen. Being male is not okay, it’s bad for you and it’s driving up insurance costs for the rest of us. It’s selfish. Making bad choices out of stubbornness and pride while everyone else pays. That’s not okay.
Please note these are not my actual views, I’m just applying anti-HAES logic to other parts of our bodies in the same manner.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 4 days ago:
Health is relative. Health isn’t an absolute boundary between healthy and unhealthy, that’s silly. Health is a polydimensional spectrum. If you want to categorise health “objectively”, well then seeing as men live shorter than women, we’d be forced to classify maleness as an illness and put every man in the world on estrogen pills. And that’s ridiculous. No, health isn’t a single standard that’s the same for everyone.
Health isn’t a point, it’s a direction. Like South. South is a direction. I see Americans say all the time that they’re from the south. They mean Texas. But I live in Australia. From my point of view, they’re from the north. But it’s not like they’re lying. In terms of America, they’re from the south. It’s true.
Health is like South. If you’ve lived your entire life overweight with poor health, then getting healthy can mean a lot of different things. If you start jogging once a week and get healthier, well congratulations, you got healthy. It’s relative. It’s unreasonable for you to demand somebody in that situation meet the ideal of human health. If you do that, if you belittle their progress and say the best they’ve done in their life isn’t good enough, you’ll kill their motivation and ruin what little health they’ve achieved.
And if you go around saying there’s no such thing as health at every size, well then I’ll tell you there’s no such thing as men’s health, because being a man is unhealthy. The two statements are equally ridiculous.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 4 days ago:
You started this conversation saying Health At Every Size is bogus and harmful. Now you’re saying both topics are important. I agree. I’m going to assume you’ve changed your mind and now understand the benefits of Health At Every Size at improving people’s health regardless of weight, and also that HAES makes it easier to lose weight if that’s what they also want.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 4 days ago:
Okay so what’s going on in this thread is that I assumed the point was to help people, and you assumed the point was to lose weight. And I think that illustrates what Health at Every Size means perfectly. HAES is about helping people, and the people complaining about HAES aren’t interested in helping people, they only want people to lose weight.
- Comment on Internet use is associated with greater wellbeing, global study finds 4 days ago:
Always has been, as someone with a grass allergy. I fucking hate grass and I hate touching it. No, getting the sniffles will not improve my mental health. But it might make me puke up my lunch, thanks to a little thing called a post-nasal drip caused by long covid.
Lawns aren’t some great mental health boon. They’re a symbol of petty bourgeois waste and excess pushed by the racist suburbs that invented them to keep black people out. TL;DR: grass is racist.
Also outside is where we trans people get hate crime’d. Fuck that place, and telling us to get off the internet is imo violent speech. The internet is the only place where many trans people are gendered correctly and allowed to be themselves. Lower internet use for trans people leads to higher suicide rate.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 4 days ago:
Also what if someone wants to be fat? "No, you’re not allowed to look how you want to look. You have to change your appearance to fit in because uhhhhhh you need to go produce more labour value for Capital.
Fuck that shit. It’s fashy as hell. Also transphobic vibes tbh.
- Comment on Overweight people more likely to take sick leave, European study finds 4 days ago:
Nothing beats CI/CO ever, no excuses, nowhere in the universe. It’s thermodynamics.
I got something that beats CICO. And it’s called addressing your specific health concerns instead of just dieting.
You’ve got poor heart health? Cardio will help you more than fasting.
You’ve got diabetes? Limiting sugar intake will help you more than restricting everything.
You’ve got depression? Antidepressants or going outside will help you more than losing weight.
You’ve got a broken arm? Rest and a sling will help you more than losing weight.
HAES is about actually fucking treating your health problems at whatever size you’re at, instead of blaming it on your weight and continuing to fail to lose weight.
CICO ain’t worth shit if the patient can’t lose weight. And if you’re thinking “it’s just a matter of willpower”, well tough shit, people have limited willpower. And being sick doesn’t help willpower either. It’s way more likely for someone to get healthy at their current size, see a willpower increase, and then lose weight, than it is for a sick and suffering person to stick to a diet, lose weight, and then get healthy. HAES is about doing it the right way around, the way around that actually works.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 6 days ago:
Using my sense of affective empathy, I see that you’re scared of me because I’m disabled. Using my sense of cognitive empathy, I make an educated guess that you’ve accepted a bunch of stereotypes about disabled people as true without seriously checking them. Putting myself in your shoes, I can only imagine I would take such a confrontational stance with someone just for how they were born, if I was scared absolutely shitless. Drawing on my own experience as a person living with NPD, and factoring in your lack of experience, I don’t believe at all what you’re saying about neurotypicals having empathy for people with NPD by default and making a conscious choice to turn it off. I’ve been in thousands of situations where a neurotypical interacted with a person living with NPD, involving thousands of neurotypicals. I only know of one time you’ve been in such a situation.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 6 days ago:
Sorry, but my empathy is very deeply impaired and there’s almost nothing I can do about it. The empathy I feel for others is very finely tuned, I have plenty of it, I always know and understand what other people are feeling. But the empathy I GET from others is nearly nothing. I receive an impaired sense of empathy from neurotypicals. Other people with NPD have been very kind to me, but neurotypicals make a choice not to put in the 10% extra effort it takes to feel empathy for a person with NPD. That’s why you think I’m toxic. You’re choosing not to feel empathy for me. You’re choosing not to understand the position I’m in, and so when I complain about a problem or try to fix it, you think I’m complaining about nothing.
The only thing I can do to resolve my problems with empathy is to campaign for greater recognition of the fact that we disabled people ARE people. Whether you choose to listen is something entirely out of my control.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 6 days ago:
I’ve never been toxic on Lemmy, and I’ve never violated the rules of an instance or community I was commenting on.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 6 days ago:
I’m quite open about being Drone Rights. I’ve never hidden it. Some people have tried to gotcha with “you’re drone rights”, and I said “yes… That’s obvious. I even moderate the community from this account.” But there’s another person who is closeted about their gender and has been accused of being me by an instance admin who claims to have access to secret logs that say we’re the same person. Given that I have faced massive amounts of harassment, abuse, and transphobia for being openly dronegender, and they are not open about their gender, you can see how I would not want them to be exposed to people like you.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 1 week ago:
I told you they did a bad job doxxing me. You didn’t fact check shit. You just tried to take a peak at someone else’s private information. There are privacy-respecting methods of fact checking that would actually work in this situation, and you didn’t use them.
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 1 week ago:
Also, if I’m understanding the situation correctly, you heard that I got doxxed, went to go look for my private information, got upset when you couldn’t find it, and yelled at me about it? Why’s it so precious for you to want my private information? What’s with this harassment?
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 1 week ago:
Hey, so is abuse of the modlog by admins and mods on remote instances going to lead to defederation?
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 1 week ago:
I wouldn’t have made a public comment about the issue if the db0 admin had done a good enough job at it that you’d be able to look it up. Then I’d be the one doing the doxxing, what with the Streisand effect. I told you the db0 admin did a bad job. But jumping straight to accusations of lying just because you didn’t pay attention? What’s your grudge against me?
- Comment on Notice for all moderators: please check the lemm.ee moderation policy 1 week ago:
Yeah, it really is. Because modlog actions are federated and irreversible, mod logs are a form of speech that cannot be suppressed in any way. If you search up a user, you see what every mod on the whole fediverse has to say about them, and there’s no way to argue back. It’s the perfect tool for harassment and doxxing. One of the db0 admins even tried (and did a bad job) to dox me using the modlog.
- Comment on Why tho 1 week ago:
There’s a Snopes article. This is real. Also they sell PissCoin
- Comment on Abortion restrictions tied to higher rates of intimate partner homicide, says study 1 week ago:
Well, yes and no. Yes, if your child is in need you have a duty to support them. But no, children should not need to rely on child support from an unwilling parent. Becoming a parent is a really big decision, and a lot of people are parents against their will, whether that be because of poor sex education, poor access to contraceptives, laws against abortion, or simply a partner who doesn’t agree. The government should be providing enough money for a kid to live on and have a good life. That’s how we do it in my country and it’s better than America.
A lot of people have sex in a state where they shouldn’t be held responsible for that decision for a lifetime. Whether it be violent rape, coercive rape, getting drunk, or just being a dumb kid who doesn’t know any better. Nobody should be having one night of poor decision making at 17 and paying for that choice at 35. And it’s really really important that people who are raped not be paying for it. I read that story from America where a high schooler was raped by his teacher and had to pay child support. Now, we can either subject rape victims to the beaurocracy of proving to the government that they didn’t consent, which is a degrading and triggering process, or the government can take responsibility for looking after ALL its citizens and pay for the raising of all unwanted children. Hell, pay for the raising of the wanted ones too, alleviate the burdens of all parents! There’s enough money.
In an enlightened society, the idea of an individual paying “child support” would be seen as absurd and backward, because all children would be supported by the whole community just for being born. And also abortion would be legal and sex ed would be very comprehensive.
- Comment on my humps 1 week ago:
You’ve never seen anthro dragon porn?? What the fuck kind of weird ass porn do you watch that you’ve never seen dragon porn?
- Comment on we love those power laws 2 weeks ago:
Well I tried a “sword” made out of silicon and it was only good for pleasuring my wife