icermiga

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• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how did you and your partner change after having a baby?⁩ ⁨⁨13⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  She did have therapy, which probably helped a little, it’s hard to know. I’ve never heard of postpartum rage before but that does sound like it, thanks so much for that link.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨how did you and your partner change after having a baby?⁩ ⁨⁨16⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago⁩:

  I won’t tell my whole story but things were pretty bad for me. When we had a baby my wife quickly changed from a lovely person to just being abusive all the time. Abusive to me and the baby all the time, and told me it was my fault she was behaving that way, and telling me I should stop getting sad and offended because me getting sad is abusive, and that I shouldn’t try to stop her being abusive to the baby, and I can’t stop her being abusive to the baby. Then when our baby was older she would react to her mum’s temper by sending me away and screaming at me to leave. I often had to make a choice between just walking away from my wife being screaming abusive to our child or pushing through and intervening even when they both screamed at me that they just wanted me to leave, which is what I always chose. Years of that has irreversibly mutilated our relationship. We’re still together but we’ll never be the same. Our child is nearly three now and has only recently stopped asking me to go away, and become very affectionate. My wife has been very slowly returning to someone I recognise, only losing her temper a few times a week, which is what I prayed for but it can’t undo the damage.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are PC handhelds like Steam Deck really competitors for Switch 2?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Yes, to an extent, which is positive. I don’t know too much about the steam deck side of things, but I don’t get the impression that it’s got enough PC market share to do that. I have a steam controller and last time I used that (admittedly years ago when it was still pretty new) I found Steam Input really didn’t have good defaults at all, despite what they said. The only sort of good defaults had the drawback of just ignoring most of the device’s USPs. It was bad, and community profiles weren’t good either. Maybe it got better?

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Are PC handhelds like Steam Deck really competitors for Switch 2?⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  Honestly I prefer console to PC so much, even as a fediverse user, linux user, someone who has a degoogled phone and uses a home server instead of a cloud, because I just hate having to worry if games are compatible with my hardware, or if controllers are compatible with my game, or if graphical oddities in my game represent supernatural parts of the story or that I didn’t install the right NVidia driver. When it comes to games, which are leisure, I find I just can’t relax with PC games like I can with console games. As for emulation, I can’t enjoy my games like that at all becuse the worry that settings are wrong or emulation is wrong is just too much like work. So I love my switch and I’ll probably love my switch 2 one day.

• ⁨Comment⁩ on ⁨Almost finished Gold and looking forward to starting Emerald.⁩ ⁨⁨1⁩ ⁨month⁩ ago⁩:

  You should challenge Red! Don’t put it down without challenging Red! You don’t need to match his level, by getting serious you definitely should be able to beat him with a big level deficit.