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- Comment on How long does it take for neurotypical (or just typical) people to get over a minor fight? 4 months ago:
Forget about what’s normal for getting over a fight. You know what’s not normal? Getting into a screaming match with your partner every month.
I really can’t stress enough, that’s not ok. Not a healthy relationship, not a safe environment for your children, and not a good example for them to follow in the future.
You need couple’s counselling ASAP because this pattern has to stop.
- Comment on Are there any good casual/low-stress mobile games that aren't filled with microtransactions? 4 months ago:
Nonograms are great for puzzles that are hard enough to be satisfying when you solve them, but easy enough to be relaxing. I use Picture Cross Color on iphone.
- Comment on I Might Have Ordered the Wrong Sandwich 4 months ago:
That’s just Australian for ketchup: www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=dead hors…
- Comment on First human brain implant malfunctioned, Neuralink says 6 months ago:
What you said is often true but not always. Some communities prefer person-first language, some prefer identity first language.
For example, generally speaking, “autistic people” is preferred over “people with autism”. The reasoning being “this is just part of who I am, it’s not an affliction that I have.”
I’m not autistic but I have lots of friends who are, and they all prefer to say “I’m autistic” rather than “I have autism”.
- Comment on Using Ubuntu may give off a hipster vibes to the average PC user, but within the Linux community its has the opposite effect. 6 months ago:
Definitely, I don’t really like Ubuntu that much even though it’s my go-to. What I like is Xfce. Whether I get it via xubuntu or something else I don’t really care.
- Comment on Tesla is banned from driving schools because of new turn signals 10 months ago:
My understanding was that most road rules are state-based, not federal.
I’m any case, I’m 100% certain that in Victoria, you can ways chuck a uey unless a sign prohibits it. Doesn’t matter if there are traffic lights or not.
It’s definitely something we have to be mindful of when driving interstate! I think a lot of Vic drivers on holidays get done for illegal U turns.
- Comment on Tesla is banned from driving schools because of new turn signals 10 months ago:
I’m pretty sure you don’t have to signal when exiting a roundabout in Victoria. We might be the outlier though. In Vic it’s also legal to U turn anywhere, unless a sign specifically prohibits it.
- Comment on 'There's almost nobody left': CEO of Baldur's Gate 3 dev Swen Vincke says the D&D team he initially worked with is gone, due to Hasbro layoffs 11 months ago:
You misunderstand. Larian is the company that made the BG3 video game, and they haven’t laid people off.
However it’s a licensed game. Baldur’s Gate and D&D are IPs that are owned by a company called Wizards (previously Wizards of the Coast). And Wizards is owned by Hasbro. Hasbro is forcing layoffs at Wizards.
The people at Wizards, i.e the people who actually make D&D are no doubt passionate wonderful people. But Hasbro (and probably some of the Wizards management) are awful corporate parasites determined to suck every last penny from their properties.
They don’t give a shit how loved a product is, if it’s not making $100M per year then it’s basically worthless to them and they won’t fund it. So layoffs happen.
- Comment on Real Love 11 months ago:
A bacon meme? Is it 2008?
- Comment on There are exactly two types of Star Trek fans 1 year ago:
Bahaha fair call mate! The other artist who came to mind was Bryan Adams, who it turns out is Canadian so clearly I’m completely full of shit.
Logic and reason aside… Idk it just feels like American fluff to me. To be clear, I don’t mean to hate on American culture with that statement. Every culture has its own vapid, meaningless fluff. God knows Australian culture does!
But something about faith of the heart just feels really, really American to me. Obviously Trek has always been an American show, but it has always seemed to make an effort to be more universal than that. I still remember hearing faith of the heart for the first time and it just felt… foreign. Unrelatable.
And personally I just hate power ballads so that’s my own bias haha. My whole argument is vibes and opinions really, I make zero claim to being correct or even internally consistent on this.
- Comment on There are exactly two types of Star Trek fans 1 year ago:
Yeah as an Aussie, faith of the heart comes across as some cringe American power ballad bullshit.
It’s such an insane genre shift from Trek of that era as well. Like how do you have 3 of the most incredible, majestic, orchestral themes from TNG, DS9, and VOY, and decide that what Trek really needs is a Rod Stewart song? It’s bizarre.
- Comment on Printer driver failure: All hands abandon ship! 1 year ago:
PC load letter?
- Comment on How can I become a better conversationalist? 1 year ago:
It can be hard. Honestly I got pretty lucky in that I was able to find lots of good people through work. There are good and bad parts to the industry I work in, I got hired by a company with a really strong culture that matched what I was looking for. So I was surrounded by a ton of people with similar values and overlapping values.
Without that, I think mostly it’s about trial and error. If you’re struggling to find the right people, you need to be brave enough to keep putting yourself out there, and to walk away from groups that just aren’t a good match. Like I said, not easy!
- Comment on How can I become a better conversationalist? 1 year ago:
Lol yep I’m 34 and also just recently diagnosed with inattentive ADHD. Hence being very aware of different communication styles.
- Comment on How can I become a better conversationalist? 1 year ago:
Bit of a left field suggestion but one thing that really helps is finding your people.
In my younger years I sometimes really struggled with casual conversation, I often felt like I was the weird guy who had nothing to say.
It turned out that was only really true when I was spending a lot of time with people with whom I had very little in common. As I got older I eventually found “my people”. Friends who I click with, who I share values and interests with, who communicate similarly to me.
It’s not about finding people who are just copies of you, that would be pretty boring and make for a real social echo chamber. You want a range of friends with different interests, from different walks of life. But you want them to be, for lack of a better term “compatible” with you.
If you happen to be neurodivergent then that adds a whooooole extra layer of complexity to conversational compatibility. There’s a stereotype that autistic people are awkward or socially inept, which is complete rubbish. They just communicate differently to neurotypicals. Put a bunch of similar autistic people in a room together and watch them have no trouble at all making conversation with each other, in their own style.
Anyway, maybe this isn’t relevant to you, and you’re already happy with the people in your life. But it’s worth taking the time to examine whether the reason you struggle to make conversation is because you’re trying to make it with the wrong people.
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
So I am confusion youtube.com/shorts/U7X7cEh5au8?si=hSmKh4IpfDwQqLk…
- Comment on [deleted] 1 year ago:
I think they’re just trying to say how iconic they are as a brand because they’ve featured in so many bits of pop culture. It’s just a “we’re so cool, buy our stuff” campaign.
- Comment on The best-selling video game of each year since 1993 1 year ago:
Nah no way. I’m as big a BG fanboy as anyone but it’s a decidedly niche genre. The vast majority of people are not interested in CRPGs.
- Comment on Who is the one movie/comic supervillian you all agree with ? 1 year ago:
Magneto. If someone is trying to genocide you, you don’t just ask nicely and hope that they change their mind. You fight them.