negativity is probably destructive to relationships

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• Theprogressivist@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  Real breakthrough you made there, champ.

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  • quacky@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    How do you expect me to respond to this?

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    • Theprogressivist@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      You just did.

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• TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.ca ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  More like certainly. It is hard to have a relationship with (or even exist alongside) someone who is constantly dragging you down.

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• ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  There’s negativity and there’s “never taking accountability for one’s actions and disliking being constantly called out on it which inevitably comes before a schism”. But nobody can tolerate a consistent partypooper, ofc.

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  • quacky@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    That second part sounds like punishment (i.e., accountability, called out, exclusion or banishment aka schism). Am i understanding correctly? There’s negativity and then there’s punishment. Punishment seems like a subset of negativity because it’s a bad thing.

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• JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  So does avoiding issues.

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  • quacky@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    That’s true. They say that when couples give up and stop fighting that is when the relationship dies.

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    • TeNppa@sopuli.xyz ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

      I never understood why people feel the need to fight with their SO so much? Why can’t the issues be talked constructively and respectfully towards each other? Why the need to let things get so bad that you need to fight over things?

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• DarkDarkHouse@lemmy.sdf.org ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

  As always, it depends. A certain amount of negativity can be healthy.

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  • quacky@lemmy.world ⁨3⁩ ⁨weeks⁩ ago

    yeah like a ratio, i heard online that it’s a 5:1 ratio gottman.com/…/the-magic-relationship-ratio-accord…

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