More like certainly. It is hard to have a relationship with (or even exist alongside) someone who is constantly dragging you down.
negativity is probably destructive to relationships
Submitted 1 month ago by quacky@lemmy.world to showerthoughts@lemmy.world
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TheFeatureCreature@lemmy.ca 1 month ago
ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 1 month ago
There’s negativity and there’s “never taking accountability for one’s actions and disliking being constantly called out on it which inevitably comes before a schism”. But nobody can tolerate a consistent partypooper, ofc.
quacky@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That second part sounds like punishment (i.e., accountability, called out, exclusion or banishment aka schism). Am i understanding correctly? There’s negativity and then there’s punishment. Punishment seems like a subset of negativity because it’s a bad thing.
JeeBaiChow@lemmy.world 1 month ago
So does avoiding issues.
quacky@lemmy.world 1 month ago
That’s true. They say that when couples give up and stop fighting that is when the relationship dies.
TeNppa@sopuli.xyz 1 month ago
I never understood why people feel the need to fight with their SO so much? Why can’t the issues be talked constructively and respectfully towards each other? Why the need to let things get so bad that you need to fight over things?
DarkDarkHouse@lemmy.sdf.org 1 month ago
As always, it depends. A certain amount of negativity can be healthy.
quacky@lemmy.world 1 month ago
yeah like a ratio, i heard online that it’s a 5:1 ratio gottman.com/…/the-magic-relationship-ratio-accord…
Theprogressivist@lemmy.world 1 month ago
Real breakthrough you made there, champ.
quacky@lemmy.world 1 month ago
How do you expect me to respond to this?
Theprogressivist@lemmy.world 1 month ago
You just did.