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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Fifthwheelaita on 2023-07-19 22:15:25.

Okay, so I’m really good friends with Kevin and his wife Sarah, and my other friend Mike. I’m getting to know his girlfriend of two years Ann well too.

Here’s the problem, the two couples often double date, and if you ask me I think they like each other, and are two steps away from doing the whole polyamory thing. Of course that’s just my guess. I don’t have a problem with this, except for when I hang out with all of them I’m made to feel like the fifth wheel.

You should also know I’m criminally single.

A few weeks before The Fourth of July, Kev and Sarah asked if I wanted to go with all of them to a lakehouse over the long weekend. They promised I wouldn’t feel left out. We even planned some stuff to do in groups. I wasn’t totally convinced, but I said fine I needed some time away anyway.

Well we get there, and immediately I notice that things are going to happen just like they always do. To make a long story short, almost none of the planned activities happened as intended. I was supposed to go fishing with the Kev and Mike but they did a morning couples hike while I was sleeping and told me they were too tired to go fishing. I wanted some “girl time” with Sarah and Ann to go bird watching, but that never happened. Meanwhile I was roped into doing stuff they wanted to do and I was mostly ignored. Kev did try to involve me somewhat, but it felt more like a pity thing.

It got so bad that I drove to the closest mall to get away for a few hours. Sarah called to ask if I was okay and I told her that I wasn’t because I was feeling like the fifth wheel. She apologized and said to come back. That night we did a Friday the 13th marathon as an apology, but no one else was into it. They were just talking to each other. I stopped after the second movie and went to sleep.

The next day everyone asked if I was okay, I again said no. My worst fear happened after being assured that it wouldn’t. They told me they were just going with the flow and that it wasn’t intentional. I said I’m fine with doing my own thing provided I had some time to really hang with everyone. Then Ann drove me over the edge. She said: “maybe you wouldn’t be so mad if you had a girlfriend, jealousy isn’t attractive”. I wish I had some clever response, but I said if that’s how you feel then I’m out. They tried to stop me, but I told them it was best that I left. I drove Mike and Ann so I asked Sarah and Kevin to give them a ride back and left.

In haven’t talked to any of them really since only to tell them all I got home safe. Truth be told I mostly calmed down on the way back home.

In the weeks since, I kinda feel like maybe I overreacted. Maybe I am jealous and it ruined what could have been a good weekend.

So reddit, AITA for leaving my trip early because I felt like I was the unwanted fifth wheel?