Allow me to preface this by saying that I swear this will tie into your point and is not a classic “but what about men” post.

I’m also a guy and I’ve had lots of older men and women express surprise that I can do basic chores like laundry. It’s always presented to me as praise, but I find that shit so insulting. The time in my life when I received these comments the most all i could think was “yeah I’ve been living on my own for 10 years. I’m pretty sure I know how to take care of myself.”

However there’s lots of guys who also like the assumption that they’re naturally incapable of housework, and from what I’ve seen they enjoy it because it makes it easier for them to offload that work onto the women in their lives, like girlfriends/wives/mothers/sisters. I assume the women who enjoy that people assume they’re incapable of doing things like it for a similar reason; because then people offer to do it for them.

Misogyny is weird and it really pushes conformity in both men and women.